My facts:

- WS starting displaying typical cheater symptoms Aug-Sept. Staying late at work, caring about how he looks, being depressed, moody,etc

- I confronted WS in late September, asked him what was going on with him, Says he wants a divorce. We talked again the next day and he said he would try to work on the marriage.

- A week later, i check cell phone records, find that hes been texting with a certain number for weeks. All day everyday and on wknds. I call the number, a woman answers, claims she doesnt know my spouse, spins me this stupid story about her husband. I call my WS and confront him and he gives me the exact same story. I accuse him of cheating. I know he was involved in an EA with his co worker.

- WS receives money from his parents, files for divorce. I beg and cry and plead for us to work it out. WS tries to find a place, so he can move out.

- I get pregnant, from trying to save my marriage through increased intimacy. He was going to move to an apartment right across the street from AP. The day he was supposed to move out, is when we find out im pregnant. So he doesnt leave.

- He starts puting passwords on phone and other accounts. We move into another rental. He continues to be secretive and mean, acts indifferent, moody with the kids. I keep trying to talk to him, to help him snap out of it.

- Checked his web history, find that he has been looking at AP pictures constantly, find something for penis enlargement, and websites to text anonymously. Confronted him, gave him ultimatum. Ws still wants to go through divorce. I try to save our marriage by being nice and accomadating with him. I end up losing the baby. He was not supportive while i was in the hospital.

He rents and apartment with out my knowledge.He then leaves for his parents house for Thanksgiving, with out us, even after i asked him to take us. I called him towards the end of visit, to ask if we were gonna get divorced and he said yes and that there was nothing that could change his mind. I tell him hes no longer welcome in our home and i withdraw all the money from bank to pay make sure our rent and bills are paid.

-Caught him at AP house, i went looking for him because our children were sick. He spoke to me in a horrid way. AP came out and starting defending him and she starting calling me names and even threatened me because i called her a skanky [censored]. She had him by the arm and she would no let him speak. All the while my WS kept running me off. It was disgusting.

- Since we have been separated, he has been mean, and angry with me. HE IS IN THE FOG!!!! He was very upset that i got myself a lawyer. Ive asked him to help me with bills and he refuses. He wont even buy diapers for his baby. I asked him to help me with childs school tuition. He refuses.

- This wknd, he wanted the kids, but i told lawyer that unless he agrees to not have AP there while he is with our children, then no dice. He did not agree. He sent me an aggressive text accusing me of being controlling all during our marriage, and that im sick in the head for trying to controll him while we are separated. He states that he will not give me any more child support until ordered by the court.

He is really deep in the fog. He twists everything i say. Im sure his AP brain washed him too. He rewrote history to justify himself. I accept responsiblity for my faults, but he is just not willing to save out marriage. He claims he hasnt loved me in years and regrets marrying me. He accuses me of being dominating and controlling. Any time i say anything that offends his AP, he gets upset and defends her, even to the point of threatening me by saying i better be careful who i insult in his life.

Ive been thinking of exposure at work. Is it too late? He needs to snap out of it. Or should i just leave him alone and hope he will wake up later on? Right now i am doing no contact. I know him, and hes not being himself. Ideas? Suggestions? Thoughts?

Is your lawyer filing a custody and support agreement with the court? Have you filed for divorce?

ARe you legally married? How long married? Has he ever had an affair before?

We are still legally married.

He has never had an affair before, that i know of.

Yes my lawyer is filing for custody and support. We are working on getting temporary orders.

He was the one that filed.

I would definitely expose his affair. Go read the link in my signature for ideas, tips. If you can find the OW's facebook page, I would expose to her contacts too.

And I agree with you that your children should not be around the OW. Will your attorney get that put in your custody agreement? Most will claim it can't be done, so you will have to tell him to make that happen.

Never too late to expose.