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Re: How did you know when you were "done"? GH31 #2700927 01/22/13 02:24 PM
Joined: Mar 2010 Posts: 6,352 New York N NeverGuessed Member
NeverGuessed Member N Joined: Mar 2010 Posts: 6,352 New York	It has been nearly two years since you responded to me and I haven't replied until now. You better have a damn good reason! Mrs. GH31 and I are still married, raising our two children and love each other again. We have uttered the ILYs again, have sex on a regular basis, and she has once again become the woman I fell in love with. We talk all the time, chit chat throughout the day and do virtually everything together. Oh, okay! That'll serve! Wow! What a pleasant surprise, to have you return after 18 months! Are you and she following all the MB principles/practices - UA, O & H, RH, EN attention, etc, etc? They will speed and reinforce the feelings of attachment and healing that you are experiencing. Would you want to fill us in on the "path" between July '11 and January '13?

Re: How did you know when you were "done"? GH31 #2700929 01/22/13 02:29 PM
Joined: Sep 2012 Posts: 1,650 D Darkguy Member
Darkguy Member D Joined: Sep 2012 Posts: 1,650	That's an awesome story. Glad to see the update really gives me hope that my WW will someday hop out of the fog and her A. I am happy that God has blessed you both with a second chance at your marriage. I am sure your kids will see you as an awesome role model for their adult private lives.

Re: How did you know when you were "done"? Darkguy #2700974 01/22/13 04:45 PM
Joined: Apr 2008 Posts: 177 Germany G GH31 OP Member
OP GH31 Member G Joined: Apr 2008 Posts: 177 Germany	Originally Posted by TranquilDark That's an awesome story. Glad to see the update really gives me hope that my WW will someday hop out of the fog and her A. I am happy that God has blessed you both with a second chance at your marriage. I am sure your kids will see you as an awesome role model for their adult private lives. Hello Tranquil, Thank you for your well wishes. I'm afraid the God stuff is lost on me (I'm an atheist for all intents and purposes) but I sincerely appreciate the spirit in which your words are meant. There is hope. Read what posters like Mortarman or mywifeilove do (and did) and follow their lead even if it seems counterintuitive. Adulterous spouses don't hop out of the fog, rather they emerge from it, as if slowly waking up from a coma. What you do now will determine how and indeed whether this happens. I am still learning each and every day how to do this husband thing. Best, GH31 Me: 36 FWW: 36 1 son born in Dec 2009 - confirmed mine through DNA test 1 daughter born in Nov 2010 Together: 13� years Married: 10 years PA/EA: January 2008 to July 2009 FWW left for OM: 01/28/2008 FWW returned for 9 days: 04/2008 FWW returned 05/21/2008 ......

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