i read a post today (has been there for sometime though) of this man who owned up on cheating (or which other term may be appropriate) his GF.one called mattt i think.

to be frank personally i thought the responses he received was too harsh,

but latter it turned out to be that he doesnt even revere marriage at all,

well that kind of changed my mind about the comments he recieved, that he deserved it.

well, i am not starting his topic again

but one striking thing i learnt from the many posts is BOUNDARIES.

while i understand literraly what boundareis are it seem there is more to it when it comes to relationships.

can i please be informed more about this.

am a kind of sensory person. though not towards all my friends, but i like the hugging, patting, stuff

my GF friends are not my friends, i dont even have their numbers, but i am sure there is more to boundaries than i thought.

thanks to you all,
please lets talk about boundaries.

Have you seen this?

Are "Friends" a Threat to Your Marriage?

thanks for the post BrainHurts

that artcle is very loaded,and not just useful but insightful

i like how Dr. H, starts by diagnosing the problem, giving general principles (very solid) then prescribing a solution in line with the problem.

he also mentions how easy or tough its going to be. that's a great man.

thanks again

so with boundaries it means you should not make love bank deposits or be receiving love bank deposits from friens of the op sex, because you would get attracted sooner or latter.

Each of us must protect our love banks from the wrong people making deposits by using Boundaries/Extraordinary Precautions.

The book Boundaries by Henry Cloud is a very good book for people who tend to be dependent on others to make decision, do not know how to say "no" without feeling guilty or walking in eggshells around some people, etc

It is healthy to learn how to and have boundaries in relationships for sure.

The Policy of Joint Agreement ensures that there is no sacrifice made by either spouse.