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My husband is sllep with a 23 year old. We known her since the age of 12. She now has 3 kids n which r the godparents. I was very good to this girl. I treated this young woman like my daughter. My husband gave her BF a job so he could take care of the kids. They r denying the affair. I am 56 and my sp is 54. Even when i found naked pics of her on his laptop he claims she accidently sent them to him. At first I dismiss the affair wh her BF bought it to my attention. I just thought he was being jealous 4 no reason. she came to my crying saying its not true. I dont know what to do. Right now my heart hurts so bad. I am so depressed and my Dr said ive lost too much weight I wear a size 5 before I was a 9. we have been married since 1995 I need so much help right now
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Stay calm and wait vets will be here. Just follow all advice to the exact letter. Hang in there!
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My husband is sllep with a 23 year old. We known her since the age of 12. She now has 3 kids n which r the godparents. I was very good to this girl. I treated this young woman like my daughter. My husband gave her BF a job so he could take care of the kids. They r denying the affair. I am 56 and my sp is 54. Even when i found naked pics of her on his laptop he claims she accidently sent them to him. At first I dismiss the affair wh her BF bought it to my attention. I just thought he was being jealous 4 no reason. she came to my crying saying its not true. I dont know what to do. Right now my heart hurts so bad. I am so depressed and my Dr said ive lost too much weight I wear a size 5 before I was a 9. we have been married since 1995 I need so much help right now Welcome to MB and I'm sorry for your pain that has brought you here. Who have you told about the affair? Is your Husband (WH) still involved with her? Have you read this? Start Here-Welcome Abroad
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Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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Angel's earlier post:
My husband and I have been married four 18 years. He was n the
Army 4 21 years. He retired n 2000 and we moved to AZ. Everything was great until 2011. He started seeing a young woman. I am 56 and he is 54. The young girl at the time was 19. She has 3 children which I Babysat. Her boyfriend worked my husband. He is denying that he is sleeping with her She also saying its not true but her own family stated its true that they r sleeping together I really dont know what to do n this situation. Ive know this kid since she was 12 and really came to care for her and her children. I will get into this more Right now I am kind of nervous Sorry"
AM
BW - 70
WH - 65
M - 35 years
D-day - 17 Apr 08
H broke contact 11/1/09
Back in love after the worst thing that every happened to us.
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Welcome Angelsyaya! Glad you came back. Do you have copies of the evidence you found on the laptop? Cam you get a keylogger on there?
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I told no one about the affair. Her BF came to me at first. Her Sister stated to her BF she thinks something was going on between OW and my sp. Our daughter questioned her father about it but he deny it. this has been going on for over a year now. We used to live in the same neighborhood 4 10 years We moved about 6 months ago. Her BF no longer works for my sp this girl was 12 when I first met her. I never seem them together but other folks have. he always has a reason when they r caught together. Its like I ran into at Wal Mart or she was at the supermarket wh he is there. He tells me fols are trying to start mess
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I have the pics n my Iphone which i emailed to myself and then I changed my email address so he cant get to them He thought he erased them
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You need to expose this affair immediately. To your family, church and married friends. Also to her family and friends.
I suggest you begin to prepare to separate from your husband. Visit an attorney next week and explain that you need to separate. The Atty can help ensure that you are protected against him giving marital assets to the other woman.
Do not tell your husband you plan on separating. Instead, do as much as possible to meet his needs. I would recommend you don't have sex as long as he is having an Affair though. (STD health risk).
For the next 2 weeks do not have any angry outbursts directed toward him or make any disrespectful judgements.
Can you do this?
Can you make a list of family and friends on Facebook to expose to tomorrow?
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I knew this kid had a crush on him which i pay no attention to. As for the pics he claims she sent them to him by mistake
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Have you read the book Surviving an Affair by Dr Willard Harley?
If not order one ASAP. It has a detailed plan on how o deal with affairs
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I knew this kid had a crush on him which i pay no attention to. As for the pics he claims she sent them to him by mistake Who cares what he says? He's lying to you! How often do you send pictures of yourself naked and in lingerie to people by mistake?
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Angels,
I told no one about the affair
You have done nothing wrong, so there is no need for you to suffer in silence.
You WH on the other hand should have known better than to enter between two young people with children.
Since your WH is denial mode do yourself a favor and get a polygraph so you can get all the ugly truth out at once. In the meanwhile don't trust anything he says.
God Bless
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And why not tell you a out them?!
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I have the pics n my Iphone which i emailed to myself and then I changed my email address so he cant get to them He thought he erased them Smart girl. Get together a list of exposure targets such as family of yours, WH and ow an friend of family. Read the exposure thread and be prepared to drop the bomb on this affair. Dr harley says that exposure is your best chance at killing the affair. affairs thrive in secrecy so shine the light on it!
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Thanks 4 your help. Who messes with a kid you have known since the age of 12? When her BF worked for WH he made it seem this kid was crazy and just jealous. Telling me she has always been a part of our family. Telling me that folks are making him out to be perverted. This girl has slept n my house drove my car. Thank goodness all the 3 kids were tested and my WH is not the Father but they r by 3 different guys with her BF being the father of just 1. I sit back and think why didnt I see this like everyone else. Folks n the neighborhood were talking about it. Yes she go to dinner with us fr time to time and there were times I didnt go cause I didnt look at her like some shady stuff was going. I loved this girl
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When are you exposing?
Who is on your exposure list?
Did you read the links I posted to you?
FWW/BW (me)
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Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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I still love my WH but how do u get interested n a kid youve known since the of 12? That is so nasty to me.
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Who messes with her?
A man with poor boundaries around the opposite sex.
She probably is great in bed and has a nice young body.
People involved in affairs actually become dillussional in their thinking. Dr Harley calls this dillussion a "fog".
How soon can you prepare your exposure list ?
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