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Melodylane, I haven't emailed. I'm struggling how to begin without it being too lengthy and getting to the point. Suggestions for my block?
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The fruitful question isn't did he ever love her. That only invites DJs.
The fruitful question (for each of them) is what are you going to do with the information that your spouse has told you they do not believe you love them.
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Moderators note: this is my last warning to stick to MB concepts if you are going to post to those in need!
Last edited by Fireproof; 02/07/13 05:33 PM. Reason: TOS posting non MB advice
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Melodylane, I haven't emailed. I'm struggling how to begin without it being too lengthy and getting to the point. Suggestions for my block? sasha, I think that your first post on this thread describes the problem succinctly. I would put that in an email, and perhaps where you say "thoughts?", change that to ask how you should approach asking your H to make changes, and what to do if he continues resisting your requests or when he responds with irritation.
BW
Married 1989
His PA 2003-2006
2 kids.
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Sasha, I'll disagree with SC here. You first note has been modified and corrected in many facets since its posting. ("Former wife's stuff is here and the problem" vs "Hubby told me I can remove it if I want")
Net/net: Try to summarize your CURRENT understanding of the situation/problem, and post it here. The folks here can help you refine it.
Can I presume to predict the expert response? "Sasha, you and your husband have not made the total emotional/romantic connection in reality that you want, and thought existed. It also appears that your hubby does not know such a marriage is possible/desirable. One motivated person not being enough to repair a faulty relationship, the best way to jump-start that correction would be to jointly counsel with Steve or Jennifer."
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