no the exposure will happen as soon as I am aware the A is still on.

You should expose regardless. You already have proof that an affair took place. Whether or not it is ongoing should not stop you. Exposing it also serves to make sure that it does not RESUME. Expose now.

I concur.

Pull the pin, dude.

They see each other everyday at work. The affair is still on.

You have enough evidence to expose. You need to expose.

The affair needs to be exposed. Don't delay any longer, my friend.

Yes, I have to presume the affair is still on as I don't have anything else to tell me otherwise.

My point is as before. I am home now for 7 days, I don't think it will be the best action to go nuclear now as I will be on a plane soon and not able to tell my side of the story with the exposees (sic)

My WW has already convinced many family and friends that I am a monster. She has totally rewritten our history and is hell-bent on creating a support group around her to agree. This has been too easy for her to manipulate without me being present to fight back. Some of the lies she has convinced others about are laughable, but she has managed nonetheless (eg I took the contract abroad to get away from her and the children - fog babble.) The damage that has already been implemented to my reputation because I have not been here to tell my side of the story as been immense. I cannot afford to have her spin even more untruths about me or our marriage. The exposure will give her even more reason to vilify me. I must be here to oppose this.

I feel if I expose without being present permanently to reconfirm her infidelity, that our marriage was not that horrific and that I still care for her very much � she will spin a web of deceit and lies against me even more powerful than before.

I realize there is no right time or wrong time to do this. I am not stalling to protect her or anything like that. It will happen and it will be big and swift.

To my original question � should I tell her I am going to the concert days before the event, or should I tell her minutes before, or should I try catch her out there, red handed. I suppose the latter will be motivation enough to expose that same evening.

My WW has already convinced many family and friends that I am a monster. She has totally rewritten our history and is hell-bent on creating a support group around her to agree. This has been too easy for her to manipulate without me being present to fight back. Some of the lies she has convinced others about are laughable, but she has managed nonetheless (eg I took the contract abroad to get away from her and the children - fog babble.) The damage that has already been implemented to my reputation because I have not been here to tell my side of the story as been immense. I cannot afford to have her spin even more untruths about me or our marriage.

This rationalization is so bizarre that I imagined that 08 February in Britain was the equivalent of 01 April in the USA!

There is a line in the movie The American President when one of the characters says to the title character about responding to slander and calumny (paraphrasing), "People don't want a mirage, but they will drink the SAND if there is nothing else out there!"

Right now WW's filthy lies, untruths, misstatements, exaggerations, and downright fantasies are the only stories out there. You have the only vehicle to counter them, and you refrain!

My personal tactic would be to expose the day of her concert, and as she's getting dressed to go, hand her a copy of your letter. At the same time, explain that you will be at the concert, with a camera! As would a hired PI! (doesn't even matter if he exists!)

But....that's just me!

How can she possibly refute what would be obvious with your exposure?? You have pics, etc. Set up a website with a link that you include in exposure. No more excuses, just do it! Believe you me; if you don't expose it won't stop...

"My point is as before. I am home now for 7 days, I don't think it will be the best action to go nuclear now as I will be on a plane soon and not able to tell my side of the story with the exposees (sic)"

Exposure will be telling your side of the story. Some will believe you, some wont. But you should include your evidence.

You need to launch the nuke, my friend. Time is not on your side. The longer this drags on, the less likely you will be able to save it. You need to move forward and get this done. You have waited long enough.

L&F;

I think there may have been some earlier confusion, when you were discussing whether it better to wait for permanently being in UK prior to exposure, or do so from China. The vets here are confirming that you should do it now. Are you ready? You do not need more evidence.

Expose. Your reasons for NOT exposing are actually reasons why you should expose...now.

Do it.

L&F;
What's happening?

Hi All,

Exposure is ready to go. I have the lists, the letters, everything. To be honest I cant see how this will help.

She has stated she has fallen out of love with me and cannot go back to the same marriage and the same way she felt before - i.e. trapped and not in control of her life.

Personally I am very scared and don't think this will help saving my marriage. To her its done and I am starting to believe this.

We have had a very tough few days talking etc and things have gotten worse. She seems more resilient and even if I expose it will it may end the A but out of sheer stubbornness she will follow through anyway.

I know my wife, there is nothing stopping this now. Wish me luck on the paths to Divorce.

We could have told you she would say this. THEY ALL SAY THIS. WE KNOW THIS.


You don't see it because you have no idea how to save a marriage. There are no guarantees but this gives you your best chance.


Wish I had a dollar for every time a BH told me this, I would be a millionaire. It means nothing.


And we know waywards. You have nothing to lose, so you might as well shoot your only weapon. Exposure is your ONLY CHANCE.

Even if you do end up divorced, the affair should still be exposed. There is no reason not to expose.

Here.
Craziest Things to Come out a Wayward's Piehole
Female Wayward Fog Disassembled and Decoded

Even if you do end up divorced, the affair should still be exposed. There is no reason not to expose.

And, most critically, the exposure should be (and should have BEEN) done at the earliest point evidence and contact information is complete. The longer the APs stay all snuggly and comfy, wrapped in their fantasy blanket, the more their tawdry alliance becomes the new "normal"!

Light the Roman Candle, my friend!

Expose - do it now - believe me, you will feel empowered !

Exposure is ready to go. I have the lists, the letters, everything.

L & F, what is going on? Did you perform the exposure?