well it's been 14months. my husband decided 2 weeks ago to put a time limit on on our marriage,(3 weeks at the time) so I have 1week to get things right. he struggles if things arnt happy all the time. I have alot of trouble with hormones leading up to my period, this week usually brings a fight, where he will make sure it becomes a tit for tat situation, he wont just accept that I'm telling how I'm feeling, he will scrape up anything I've done or dont do just to be equal or antagonising me. He says its now time I got over his a,(does he have the right to tell me this) that I have had long enough, but I believe it's something that stays with you. I still have the occasional reminder, things that are said in company of others that should be a joke seems to be alot more serious. But I do believe I'm trying as hard as I can.. I dont know what to feel somedays, such a confusing time!!!

Time For Plan B.

Don't know what that is? Pick up a copy of Dr. Harley's "Surviving An Affair". You can buy it right now for ten bucks and read it on your computer with the Kindle Cloud Reader. Basically, if you're posting here, then you have sufficient technology to read the book instantly, for ten measly dollars.

http://www.amazon.com/Surviving-an-..._0?ie=UTF8&qid=1360602322&sr=8-1

Once you've read through it, you'll know the answer to your question. But if you still have questions, post again.

Kimono, it would be helpful if you stuck to the same thread instead of starting a new one everytime. If I recall, you have been struggling for a long time. If you have been implementing the MB concepts and he is still nit onboard and giving you just compensation for you to heal, then plan b and/or a separation is warranted. You can't keep going on like this.

Just my .02

thanks all, yes have read surving affair, we both have

Kimono, I'm sorry to hear you are still struggling so much.

I can't remember from your other thread. Did you ever counsel with the Harley's/coaching center? Do the online program?

How is your UA time?

Are you still talking about the A? Remember, if you have all of the information, you should not be bringing up the A again and again (sounds like you are from your post).

Also, have you worked on meeting each other's EN's and avoiding lovebusters? It also sounds like there are lovebusters galore being thrown around. This will continue to damage any work you have done to create romantic love in your marriage.