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I said no, so she hired a sitter for my daughter to watch her for 48 hours. Because your wife had been upset with you for exposing the affair to your daughter, I assumed she still had some protective maternal instincts. Looks like her fog is so thick, she can't even see her own daughter through it. That is just heartbreaking.
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Jedi, I have not thought about hiring a PI for the sake of checking out the OP. I was looking at it in terms of finding out that she was having an affair, of which I already know. But you make a great point about the OP being a scum bag. Do you recommend I hire a PI in Mich. and Pitt? I assume the guy from AZ isn't traveling to these places with her. Also are you being serious about me waling away?
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I don't know the details of hiring a PI.
In my case my wife had an affair with a local man and i I was able to order a background report on the internet.
In your case she is somehow meeting people across the country and you dot know who they are.
There is a poster here who's wife took the kids to puerto Rico and he had to petition a court to get his son back. I wouldn't take any chances.
She is meeting these men somehow. Probably on an Internet site.
I would call and cancel the credit cards. Are they joint accounts? Report them lost.
She may have joined a sex swinger group or something similar.
Has she always "gone out" of state like this?
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Jedi, no she has not always gone out of state like this. This is all new with in the last 6 months or so. We have seprate accounts now, but she is spending this money while we are still married. So I'm consulting my attny to see if this does go all the way through to D. If I'm still on the hook for 50%. Also when I filed my papers, I had my attny file a paper to petition the court to restrict her from taking our daughter out of state. She is pist because she has family that lives in a neighboring state, and a family that lives in Chicago, but that's not my proplem!
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Fireboss,
Get a bound notebook and start keeping a handwritten journal of the crazy [censored] your wife is doing. Note facts, not your impressions. This will help in any custody proceeding:
Ex. "20130207 - Told WW that i had overtime shift this weekend, she said sge had plans this weekend and asked me to cancel OT. I replied that given this economy, we needed the income and asked her to cancel her plans..
20130208 - WW told me she hired a siiter to watch DD for 48 hrs straight. I said that seemed like a bad idea, she said she didn't care."
That will help the family court understand what parenting plan is best for your DD.
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WalkTheWalk, that is a good idea! Starting this asap.
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In my case my wife started leaving the home
And I kept a journal in my smartphone. (password protected)
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Its difficult to offer suggestions to you considering
You haven't made the effort to read Surviving an Affair.
The book explains what to do and you say you want to save the marriage, but then waffle on how to do that.
If you want to save your marriage you need to read te book now.
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Did she leave this weekend?
Do you call a PI?
Have you gathered any info about who she is seeing? How she is finding these guys. It's either one man she's visiting or different men
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Jedi, I ordered the book and having it delivered to a local book store. She is set to leave this weekend. She is still planning on leaving, and she has her phone password protected and our laptop. So that is slowing me down. She is visiting different cities, but I don't know if she is meeting the same guy or different guys. That's why hiring a PI may not work. I can't afford to hire a PI in every city she visits. And if that is considered waffling then so be it!
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You can call a local investigator and ask: Can you find out who she is seeing?
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FB, has WW continued with her adulterous second life? Have you mad any progress in ending it?
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To all following my journey, I apologize for not being on here much lately. I have been trying to read the book, spend time with my D and keep up with work during this busy month of work for me. It looks like it's slowing down. I got about half way through the book but was so exhausted from work I dodn't feel like I was retaining anything, so I'm going to start over. NG, my WW is still doing her thing and I have not been able to end it. I do believe this has turned in to a multiple guy thing, so I akm going to try to read and retain the books info as soon as possible, but also try to just protect my D as much as possible, during my WW bout with rectal-cranial disease!
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I am going to try to read and retain the books info as soon as possible, but also try to just protect my D as much as possible, during my WW bout with rectal-cranial disease!
Reading books and emotionally supporting D are both good and necessary actions, FB. So too are eating, sleeping, breathing, dressing adequately for the current weather conditions, and taking out the trash once a week.
All those things share the characteristic of having NOTHING to do with ending WW's slutty lifestyle, or isolating yourself from it.
You're not in Plan A, nor Plan B, and not clearly clamping down on Plan D, either. Plan WTF? is neither MB-approved, nor likely to aid you. Do you have a Plan? Do you care? Should we care?
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Fire boss i also encourage you to consider attending a church in your area.
During times like these it is good to be around good moral
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