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I am wondering how to implement the POJA and which books should my husband and I start with.
I would like to try the POJA but I'm a little worried....I feel he's already controlling!
Our big issue right now...how would the POJA help?
-we had a financial agreement which I feel he rescinded recently. we have 2 acts, joint and his. He has treated his money as "ours" and agreed when we married a certain percentage become "ours" each year (common in 15yrs). Simply put, he wants to use up our joint account leaving everything in his name.
He says he will take care of me, not to worry, he has so far...but he refuses to put my name on his account, or what I feel is more fair AND our original agreement is to transfer a % each year. He now says he will do that in 15 yrs, if we split before he will then give me my "%". He is unyielding on this now and I feel tricked. We had an agreement to avoid this very thing, he was very generous early on and our agreement is written but between us.
Truthfully, I think he is just trying to control me even more financially and increase my dependence on him.
Looking at the PJOA....don't we stay stuck on this? If we do nothing the bills keep coming from our joint and he gets his way and I become completely dependent.
this is a huge issue right now and I am afraid my only choice will be to pull my 50% and put it in my own account. He sees that as me "divorcing him". I see it as me protecting my future.
Sorry for the detail but I can't get my head around PJOA, thank you.
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Responded on your other thread
3 adult children
Divorced - he was a serial adulterer
Now remarried, thank you MB
(formerly lied_to_again)
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