He is 25. We have a 3 year old boy, and I have a almost 2 year old daughter. What do I do??? I have a feeling it is more than just that and that it may have been going on longer by the way he acts. Not with kids but withdrawn. I found out through a keylogger. What do I do?

I'm worried about our kids. Should I get them checked? They do cry when I leave them with him, especially my daughter. But she can't talk and my son doesn't act like he doesn't like him. I will need proof if there is no physical proof. He can't get custody even partial with them.

Is it illegal porn?

My now xh was looking at a lot of weird borderline stuff.....our ds was 9 when I discovered this....I used the evidence to my advantage and divorced him. I would strongly advise you to not show your hand too soon. I left the keylogger on for 6 weeks and got I valuable info/evidence.

Can you help me figure out spying/keylogger laws in mississippi? I can't find anything. If it is illegal what do I do to get proof. And I am not sure. It didn't show the websites. He look up "preteen" then "young porn" then "teen".

Is it your house and your computer also?

No, his dad owns and pays for the house and his phone. It's in his dad's name but his dad doesn't live here just me him and the kids.

Who owns the computer?

How long have you been together?

If it isn't illegal, the teen and preteen have to be at least 18. Have you looked up the sites to see if they are legal or not?

How long has he been looking? Did he look at it when he was growing up?

I used a keylogger and just installed it 3 days ago. I only know he searched for "young porn" "preteen porn" and "teen porn" for 30 minutes. I do not know the web addresses because he used private browsing. There is a option to do screenshots every so many minutes but it didn't catch it at all. I was suspicious he was cheating because we don't ever have sex. He doesn't show me affection and he acts grossed out by me. He used his phone to look it up, his dad pays the bill and bought the phone. We have been together 7 years. This is the first time I saw but I did only install it 3 days ago. I did catch him looking for "preteen" porn 7 years ago. I was 14 and he was 18 so I didn't think too much about that.

Have you read the book His Needs Her Needs?

Marriage Builders will not work when there is an active addiction. I certainly consider this sort of porn viewing as an addiction if not outright illegal. There is no possible way to make 'preteen porn' anything other than a perversion and I am very concerned about this situation considering you have two small children. The fact that he dated you when you were 14 and now that you are no longer a child he is 'grossed out' by you is very telling to me. Very disturbing.

Are you married?

mine has been on porn web sites for years & when i called him on it he just got sneakier. i installed spy software on his computer & cell phone only to find out there were dating websites and messages to other women as well. at the time our 20 year old daughter was a teenager & when i showed the evidence of the teen porn websites he was on to a divorce lawyer she said it doesn't make a difference in New York only if he's endangering our daughter. porn is NOT ok, it's NOT harmless pictures & my soon to be ex stopped touching me a long time ago & is currently in an affair i can prove & i'm almost 100% positive there were others. he's an alcoholic who stopped drinking 15 years ago but his addiction has switched to pornography. NOTHING helps addicts/addictive personalities except intense counseling/therapy which the addict needs to admit he has a problem & truly wants help. i had to get tested for AIDS & STD's so i suggest everyone do the same. porn leads to affairs, don't kid yourselves.