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Re: Should I tell his GF?
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...why you think she needed to confront him.

Because, in this horrible dating world that exists, it is HIGHLY possible that where ST thought the two of them were in an "exclusive" courting relationship, the fellow that eventually became Mr Two-time considered himself still in the "exploratory" stage. Casual dating is touring a car dealership, looking for the one with the characteristics one would like. Eventually, that would migrate into a more restricted understanding ("ordering a vehicle"), which would be followed by taking ownership of the selection, ie: the nuptials. If ST was incorrect in HIS mindset, before throwing the entire thing overboard, it would have been useful to discover where he was!
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...why you think she needed to confront him.

Because, in this horrible dating world that exists, it is HIGHLY possible that where ST thought the two of them were in an "exclusive" courting relationship, the fellow that eventually became Mr Two-time considered himself still in the "exploratory" stage. Casual dating is touring a car dealership, looking for the one with the characteristics one would like. Eventually, that would migrate into a more restricted understanding ("ordering a vehicle"), which would be followed by taking ownership of the selection, ie: the nuptials. If ST was incorrect in HIS mindset, before throwing the entire thing overboard, it would have been useful to discover where he was!


I suppose that's true. I guess I don't engage in sexual behavior without letting the other person know that I expect to be exclusive, so it didn't occur to me that they could be having sex without that understanding.

On the other hand, you don't know that she hadn't made that clear in the beginning, so saying she did the wrong thing by just leaving might be mistaken as well. They *may* have already had that understanding and she may have left because he reneged their agreement. I know I would.
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