Way to go, Nicole!

Keep going! Hope you find the evidence you need from around that time to put your mind at ease! Routing for you

Nicole,

Like everyone else here, I am very proud of your strength. I know exactly what you feel in restricting your H and what he does. Both my H and I used to be like that with each other. Both were too scared to restrict the other thinking that it would push them away. But we realized that allowing your partner to do what they want and just blindly trusting them actually has the opposite affect on your marriage. It opens the door for an affair!!

You asked a few posts back if you could get phone records from his work phone. I am not sure about a work phone, you may want to call his company if you can without him finding out. I know that for our personal phones I can get online and check all of the incoming and out coming calls for all of our phones. Again, I know that work phones are a completely different story but it might be worth it to see if you can look it up online or have something sent to you.

Again, I know what you are doing is scary and out of character for you but I also know that it will help your marriage in the long run.

Thanks for giving everyone on this site a chance! That shows your true character and willingness to save your marriage.

"pretty" or not you are a very brave woman (sorry I had to )

Look at it like this, Nicole: you're not restricting him. You are protecting your marriage and helping him learn healthy boundaries. This is a win for both of you and your marriage.

Your doing a good job I see the advice is starting to sink in. Glad you stuck around! You can do this.

Thought I would bump you up to see how you were doing. I hope you are doing well and still lurking on this site for help.

Let us know how things are going, no matter what direction they are going in.

just popping in to say atta girl nicole! that first step is so very, very hard, but once you start taking control it gets easier.

i hope that you find that the EA ended. but if you don't, or if it turns out it was even more, we're here for you. you are very lucky to have so much traffic on your thread!

keep up the good work. keep posting.