My husband and I have been married for 8 months now. Recently, his family heard a rumor that I cheated, and he and I both know that this is absolutely untrue. He does not have any doubts about me at all; they are the entire problem.

This has caused chaos in his family. They've threatened to disown him (he is supposed to inherit his father's company, which is his dream), and recently, when his grandmother suffered a stroke, his family refused to contact him.

Because his family is very close, he has taken all this to heart, and on Thursday, he left me. He told me that he didn't think that we should contact one another anymore. He hasn't spoken to me at all since, but I know that he is with them, and they are calling me and telling me to stop trying to contact him because it's just making him mad.

I believe they are controlling his every action right now, and I don't know what to do to get him back. I'm frustrated, helpless, and confused. Please help.

Welcome, jlyhu.
What has caused chaos? The fact that your husband is sure that you are faithful to him? They believe a rumor over your husband's reassurances to them?

Your husband has chosen his family and the family business over you. I'm sorry. No man who loves his wife and believes in her faithfulness suddenly shuts her down cold, leaves her and runs home to his family without reason.

I'm sorry - I know how upsetting this must be for you, but there really isn't anything you can do. This is up to your husband, and it appears that he has made his decision.

And if he should have a change of heart and want to return to your marriage, I would be very hesitant about allowing his return. His loyalties appear evident.

How old are the two of you?

We are 24 and 25, which I know is young, but I still think it's old enough for him to make his own choices without mommy and daddy standing over his shoulder.

I totally agree, which is my point. He made his decision.

You are young and have plenty of time to find a mature mate who understands the importance of prioritizing his marriage over his family. I wish you luck.

I encourage you to read the book Buyers Renters and Freeloaders by Dr Willard Harley