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Originally Posted By: BrainHurts
Do you spend nights apart, still?

How much UA time are you two getting?


We don't spend very many nights apart (that trip I referred to was the last occasion that happened), but we don't a lot of UA time together either.


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Originally Posted By: ManInMotion
Originally Posted By: BrainHurts
Do you spend nights apart, still?

How much UA time are you two getting?


We don't spend very many nights apart (that trip I referred to was the last occasion that happened), but we don't a lot of UA time together either.


Change your screen name.

A man in motion would be getting things done in the UA time department.

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Originally Posted By: ManInMotion
Originally Posted By: BrainHurts
Do you spend nights apart, still?

How much UA time are you two getting?


We don't spend very many nights apart (that trip I referred to was the last occasion that happened), but we don't a lot of UA time together either.

How come?


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Originally Posted By: ManInMotion
I thought I'd post a little update. As the "Subject" says, I think our M can now be considered as "sexless". Basically we have not had SF since early August last year, when she returned from a trip overseas. We tried, but to me it just didn't feel right, and I have not tried or even approached the subject since. To be honest, I'm a bit turned off at the thought of it, but I'm not sure why. She doesn't seem to mind - she did tell me that SF (which I interpreted as "SF with me" as she apparently did not have the same hangups when with the OM) was not one of her "needs".

Otherwise life seems to be Ok at the moment. We have the odd argument as most M'd couples do, and our lives are a bit more independent than I'd like them to be, but that's about it. Frankly I'm not really concerned about the lack of SF at the moment, but I'm concerned over my lack of concern, if you understand what I mean.


Why not take the opposite approach and relentlessly persue your W for sex? It seems to me that the writing is on the wall when it comes to a sexless marriage. Why die the slow death? Instead, put her feet to the fire and she either steps up and gives it up, or the marriage ends quickly and you can move on with your life.


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Why aren't you interested in SF? Maybe you need to get checked physically. Is it that your drive is low? Maybe it's hormonal?


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