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We were talking for 5 days to be exact and are back to his Angry Outburst yesterday. I'm reading Love Busters and on Chapter 2 of disrespectful judgement.
Yesterday's argument ended with the day. Today after work he was going to help organize at home. When it didnt happen at the end of the day I asked him why he didnt do as he had said and how he is not doing his part.
I understand I shouldnt be making demands. At the same time be convincing enough when asking for a request. Its tough when an agreement is to be made just coming out of/ after an argument. In the end he made another judging statement (that i'm a mess) and it was the end of conversation.
How does one turn it around? Or anyone have some suggestion.
Last edited by Wearld; 03/01/13 01:34 AM.
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You cannot control what he does. You can only control what you will put up with. What are your boundaries?
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Instead of asking why he didn't do something, you should state how you felt that he didn't do it. As well as how you felt when he called you a "mess". Your boundary is that you tell him that you will not be treated that way and that you will separate from him if it continues. Then stand by your word.
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