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Some time ago I found a thread with advice on handling those horrid anniversaries that you wish you could just sleep through (for about two months). Does anyone know where to find it? Thanks - Wanda
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Some time ago I found a thread with advice on handling those horrid anniversaries that you wish you could just sleep through (for about two months). Does anyone know where to find it? Thanks - Wanda Is it this one? Managing Memories and Dealing with Triggers
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Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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That's it. Thank you, Brain Hurts.
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That's it. Thank you, Brain Hurts. You're welcome. Do you want to share what's going on?
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Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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Brain Hurts - Next week brings the one year anniversary of my divorce. I dread it it more than anything. I suppose because that was the day I realized all hope was gone. I found this forum too late to save my marriage but I am finding help here in healing.
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Brain Hurts - Next week brings the one year anniversary of my divorce. I dread it it more than anything. I suppose because that was the day I realized all hope was gone. I found this forum too late to save my marriage but I am finding help here in healing. So sorry. Do you have any plans for that day? With friends or family? Try and reclaim the day and plan fun things and stay busy. Also did you listen to the clips I posted at the end of that thread?
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Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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Wanda yesterday would have been my 11 year wedding anniversary.
I feel your pain.
All I can say is that the sun will still rise and set, the trees will still grow and the birds will still fly. We just have to keep moving on
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BrainHurts - Yes, I did listen and realized that there are still many reminders of the marriage that have to go. I have no children (God's plan, not mine) and have had no contact with the ex but realize that even incidentals like dishware are a reminder.I am fortunate to have a very dear friend who is dragging me out of my depression and helping me with a new start. She has offered to spend that anniversary shopping for replacements for the reminders still hanging around.
Jedi Knight - I know this will take time for us all but with God's help we will be fine one day.
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BrainHurts - Yes, I did listen and realized that there are still many reminders of the marriage that have to go. I have no children (God's plan, not mine) and have had no contact with the ex but realize that even incidentals like dishware are a reminder.I am fortunate to have a very dear friend who is dragging me out of my depression and helping me with a new start. She has offered to spend that anniversary shopping for replacements for the reminders still hanging around. Good for you! This is a great solution: build your own life, put away everything that reminds you of him. There are so many possibilities open to you, and I'm proud of you for embracing that. Time with a friend will help too. {{{{{Wanda}}}}}
"When you love someone, all your saved up wishes start coming out."
Elizabeth Bowen
(Changed my profile name, as it was appearing in Google searches. Yikes!)
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Thanks for the much needed hugs, Zhamila. 
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