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Rant on:

MB posters who pop in after page 50 and ask questions that were previously asked and answered. It isn't necessary to follow every thread, but if a poster decides to comment or ask questions, he/she ought to at least be familar with the thread.

Rant off.

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Originally Posted by armymama
Rant on:

MB posters who pop in after page 50 and ask questions that were previously asked and answered. It isn't necessary to follow every thread, but if a poster decides to comment or ask questions, he/she ought to at least be familar with the thread.

Rant off.

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No, it wasn't.


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Originally Posted by armymama
No, it wasn't.

I do it a lot.
But, I have a note from my doctor, saying it's OK.

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MB posters who pop in after page 50 and ask questions that were previously asked and answered...he/she ought to at least be famil1ar with the thread.

Ya know what's even worse? When those posters don't even check out this thread to see how their actions are being judged as disruptive....and continue with their behavior! rotflmao

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"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt

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When I see a new thread (I try to avoid a new one for five pages or so to avoid the "but I CAN'T DO THAT TO MY WS HE/SHE WILL LEAVE!!!" syndrome. Typically, though, I tend to read the last two or three pages to catch up. Would it be better to check more than that?


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Honestly, when they get to be more than 50 pages, who can keep them all straight? I'm like "Is that the guy that is overseas or the one with the kid in PR"?? LOL

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My apologies. I guess there are lots of people who post on threads without knowing what is happening in the thread.

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Originally Posted by armymama
My apologies. I guess there are lots of people who post on threads without knowing what is happening in the thread.

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Sometimes its people who just have a rant for the day,(like myself right now), who feel free to give their opinion, and don't read the whole thread..

They are no closer to understanding the progress of people who are posting by reading the last 6 months,(Note the date of posts), in reading the actions done in the last ten minutes...

Its really relative to the time spent also and how different people process such information...and the posters reaction, or reactions...

The real counselors, the ones who invest their time in people who do it for a living, deserve respect because they do it for a living. They're is no Canned formula to tell what people need for counsel..What kind of counsel..or medical attention..

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When I start advising people on a new thread, besides the obvious things I read the whole thing, and let it sink into my rather thick skull.

It takes a couple of days... twoxfourCP

Even then I miss something...Im not them..


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Teilhard de Chardin..“We are not human beings having a spiritual experience. We are spiritual beings having a human experience.” ...Sounds about right to me.
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Is the USA having yet another holiday? naughty


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Originally Posted by SugarCane
Is the USA having yet another holiday? naughty

Every day is a holiday in America!! dance2


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I can believe that!

But what's the technical answer, in the sense that nobody is going to work tomorrow?


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No, we have to work tomorrow!


"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt

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Monday IS a holiday, Sugar, but not one of the major ones. It is called President's Day, and is an amalgam of George Washington's and Abraham Lincoln's birthdays both being in February. Since we're now approaching 50-odd presidents (and getting ODDER, if one may make a political comment!) someone a while ago decided that a consolidated holiday commemorating those politicians, who made it to the Chief Executive Office BEFORE their crimes, misdemeanors, and treasons were unearthed, would be efficient.

The celebrating of this holiday is limited to the basically ineducable children here foregoing a day of school, and the rapacious and predatory commercial entities holding (yet another) Spectacular! Sale!

So.....here's to James Buchanan, Warren G. Harding, Jimmy Carter, and the rest of the mediocrities that have led this great nation!

Now, aren't you glad you asked?

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I hate when I see well intentioned posters giving waywards more fuel to paint themselves as a victim.


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My pet hate is the armchair psychiatrists who authoritatively declare their exes to be xyz disordered even though they have never been officially diagnosed with anything. Can't people just take responsibility for their behaviour? What is wrong with 'I screwed up'.


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So, watching the conclusion of Christopher Nolan's Dark Knight Trilogy... something kind of struck out at me;

Originally Posted by Bane
Home, where I learned the truth about despair, as will you. There's a reason why this prison is the worst hell on earth... Hope. Every man who has ventured here over the centuries has looked up to the light and imagined climbing to freedom. So easy... So simple... And like shipwrecked men turning to sea water from uncontrollable thirst, many have died trying. I learned here that there can be no true despair without hope. So, as I terrorize Gotham, I will feed its people hope to poison their souls. I will let them believe they can survive so that you can watch them clamoring over each other to "stay in the sun." You can watch me torture an entire city and when you have truly understood the depth of your failure, we will fulfill Ra's al Ghul's destiny... We will destroy Gotham and then, when it is done and Gotham is ashes, then you have my permission to die

...there can be no true despair without hope.




"An expert is a person who has made all the mistakes that can be made in a very narrow field." - Niels Bohr

"Smart people believe weird things because they are skilled at defending beliefs they arrived at for non-smart reasons." - Michael Shermer

"Fair speech may hide a foul heart." - Samwise Gamgee LOTR
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Trip, your tagline ("An expert is a person who has made all the mistakes that can be made in a very narrow field." - Niels Bohr) brings to mind one of my favorite aphorisms:

An expert is a man who knows more and more about less and less.
An idiot knows less and less about more and more.
One strives to know everything about nothing,
while the other comes to know nothing of everything!

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