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BrainHurts #2713580 03/19/13 04:54 PM
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Originally Posted by BrainHurts
Why was a swat team at your house? Why did you do jail time?

Bb, I have had a SWAT team at my house. What did you do to deserve this honor?


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a guy told the police a had trash bags of mj....which was not true...they got a search warrant and busted my door down... I was honest with them and i had a small amount for personal use.. I was in jail for 2 days until i bonded out
and was on house arrest for 3 months with 6 months probation...It is not illegal in some states now....


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mel9433 #2713605 03/19/13 07:16 PM
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Nice.. crazy


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Originally Posted by mel9433
a guy told the police a had trash bags of mj....which was not true...they got a search warrant and busted my door down... I was honest with them and i had a small amount for personal use.. I was in jail for 2 days until i bonded out
and was on house arrest for 3 months with 6 months probation...It is not illegal in some states now....

Nice.. crazy


"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt

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MrAlias #2713623 03/19/13 07:49 PM
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oops.....i posted that and i didnt know my w logged me out and her in....

mel9433 #2713632 03/19/13 08:09 PM
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Originally Posted by mel9433
a guy told the police a had trash bags of mj....which was not true...they got a search warrant and busted my door down... I was honest with them and i had a small amount for personal use.. I was in jail for 2 days until i bonded out
and was on house arrest for 3 months with 6 months probation...It is not illegal in some states now....

Unless it is not illegal in YOUR state, or you are in a medical marijuana state and have a medical use card, bringing up the legality of it is not relevant - holding something illegal is holding something illegal.


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HoldHerHand #2713683 03/20/13 01:41 AM
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Really....thats good to know

MrAlias #2713685 03/20/13 03:28 AM
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listening to ac/dc....at 0400....this is a test...only a test

basketball9433 #2713721 03/20/13 07:43 AM
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This isn't a test. This is the real deal. I wonder how serious you are about all of this.

From your W's thread: (You need to stay away from her thread)

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it wasnt the swat team...just a few county deputies and state police :

Seriously?

Do you realize how this sounds? Your W has law enforcement in your home and a gun pulled to her head because of, I presume, something you did. And instead of being apologetic and remorseful you want to argue specifics.

Statements like this will definitely play into our opinion of where mel needs to go from here. Uncaring, self centered, selfish people sometimes just never get what it takes to have a happy healthy marriage. From what I gather you�re so angry at her that you can�t give an inch. You're gonna stand your ground and fight this fight to the end. The end being a divorce of course. But the fighting needs to end NOW if you two have any hope of saving your M.

Are you ready to start?


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MrAlias #2713722 03/20/13 07:46 AM
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Also you've made some comments about unhappiness with yourself.

So ... Why not change that? Why not do something to make yourself feel better? One of the best things you can do is be a better person and also work to have a better relationship with your W. Stop all the negative crap and start doing something positive.


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basketball9433 #2713762 03/20/13 10:41 AM
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Originally Posted by basketball9433
listening to ac/dc....at 0400....this is a test...only a test
Listening to ad/dc at 4AM - how loudly? With headphones on, or loudly enough to keep your wife awake?


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It was to loud....she came downstairs to tell me.....i am ashamed now for being inconsiderate to her..i did apologize to her in our first email this morning ....headphones is a great idea....i woke up with my arm hurting from an injury and was doing something trying to take my mind off it...

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w and i need a plan to resolve conflicts and restore marriage....

basketball9433 #2713795 03/20/13 12:00 PM
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Originally Posted by basketball9433
w and i need a plan to resolve conflicts and restore marriage....

You've found it. Implement it.

1). Get on the phone and call an MB counselor
2). Buy some key books that Dr. Harley has written
(I recommend these 3. I have these 3).
- His Needs Her Needs
- LoveBusters
- Falling In Love, Stay in Love



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basketball9433 #2713800 03/20/13 12:27 PM
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Originally Posted by basketball9433
w and i need a plan to resolve conflicts and restore marriage....
In addition to MrAlias's advice, have you seen this?
How to Create Your Own Plan to Resolve Conflicts and Restore Love to Your Marriage


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I asked her to be patient with me when my injury was getting worse.....she really did not seem to care....dont think the pain medicine is helping either....i go to the dr. soon...

basketball9433 #2713866 03/20/13 04:45 PM
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Originally Posted by basketball9433
I asked her to be patient with me when my injury was getting worse.....she really did not seem to care....
Did that give you the right to play heavy metal music at 4AM?

I mean - grow up. Have you never been aware that loud music in the wee small hours is a nuisance to people who are trying to sleep? Is this the first you've heard of this fact?

Admit it. You did it because you didn't give a crap how she felt, and hoped she was annoyed, in fact.


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I do read all the comments and i take it all in...i am feeling better this evening after having a talk....its funny how the trust comes back when i believe and understand her feelings....

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what is the phone number to a mb counselor..

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Originally Posted by basketball9433
what is the phone number to a mb counselor..

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