When Scotland was first in Plan B, she struggled with annoying thoughts/longings about her WH (living with OW).

We brainstormed & came up with the "loony jar".
Scotland lives in Canada. The Canadian Govt. made some new coins with ducks (loons) on them.
Every time she caught herself thinking or talking about WH, she put a loon in the jar. The kids (2 sons) helped her. They loved the "loony jar". When there was enough coins, they went out for family fun night using the loons.

Just an idea.

For any plan to work, there is one condition.

You have to follow it.

Until you are through playing at it, I am through.

Understood I will make it impossible for any contact other than through the IC.

I really like this idea I think I'll use it!

From the "How to Plan B Correctly" thread (I see that it was posted to you earlier.)

http://forum.marriagebuilders.com/ubbt/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2482787#Post2482787



Your WH is going to be that much more persistent now because you just told him that you don't mean what you say. Not good.

Do you want help to have an airtight Plan B or???

What changes are you going to make?

PF, why didn't you answer this?

I see that mmmherb also tried to address this issue w/you earlier in the thread and you kind of blew him off.

You just taught him that if he is persistant enough you WILL answer his call.

You have to change your cell phone number - or learn how to BLOCK his calls.

You **like** knowing that he's trying, don't you?
But you need to understand that you just made Plan B a little less painful to him....he just got a "fix"....now he can go back to affair-land a little bit longer....and next time he needs a fix, he'll just call 30 times instead of 20...cuz you'll answer....

You just helped the affair last a little bit longer....
Was that what you wanted?

Yup.

Susie in all of this I have changed my phone number 5 times so much so that my own family cant keep track of it. I have two elderly parents and my mom is very forgetful, she can't remember my number any more. I was really thinking of her when I decided not to change my number this time again.

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Your WH is going to be that much more persistent now because you just told him that you don't mean what you say. Not good.

Do you want help to have an airtight Plan B or???

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He wouldn't have known that I meant not to speak to him as he never read the letter.

BTW my parents live in a different state in the other side of the country so I don't see them often and my number is the only way my family can get in touch with me especially if there is an emergency.

Reminder:
He's a liar.

You can block him, PF. Why isn't he blocked?

First of all, BEFORE you break Plan B, talk to us to let us help you with whatever issue you believe needs to be addressed.

Secondly, I posted to you a solution to this problem but you obviously didn't read it or don't want to hear it. Here, again:

Well I guess at this point I may need to explain a little more, financially I have had to cut corners all around. The state I live in is a no fault state, even it it wasn't I was the main bread winner of the family but not by much.

Because of the loss of income on his end I have had to cut corners to simply get by. That mean using a prepaid phone carrier that carrier does not do number blocking. The most I can do is on my phone send his calls directly to voice mail. Which I have done today just in hopes to deter any more contact.

My financial situation also makes it difficult to do the wonderful me things I want to do, like travel and take classes. Unless its free I can't take part of it. I have a pretty inexpensive place to live, and my children although attending school have jobs and help as much as they can with what they earn but it is tight.

Its not that I am not willing to do all these big steps its that I have to find a way to do them on my budget.

Do you even have an IM? I don't think I have seen you mention one.

These plans are specific for a reason.

Then you need to change the number, pf. If you changed it five times, then six is not a big deal. Someone crossing off a number and writing down a new one, is not a big deal.

There is no excuse that will fly with me not to do this.

It should have been done in the first place and now that your WH knows he can get through, it becomes even more important.

This is a dealbreaker. If you are unwilling to do this, then you are not serious about Plan B.

Please respond. Thanks.