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Offer to make her some soothing tea - chamomile with honey usually works.
At her next outburst, you CALMLY repeat: "I own this house, and this is where I plan to stay." Then turn back to reading one of the MB books.
You don't have kids, so you're going to have to trust me on this. For the foreseeable future, WW is going to have all the emotional grounding and rational behavior of the typical 15y/o girl. A part of their brain midway between the reptile portion and the mid-higher primates (think: chimpanzee who had his banana snatched away) is totally in control. There is no governor on her mouth, and no ability to compose and follow a plan, even one in her best interest.
Here at MB we call it "bat-sh*t crazy". Your WW seems to have it BAAAAAAD, which ultimately should be good for you.
If I run into her again before she leaves, I will tell her I am going to walmart to get some food since I am just moving in and I'll ask if she wants something as a gesture of good faith.
Me: BH, 28 WW, 26 Married September 2005 D-Day: April 7, 2013 A started in February, 2013, and is ongoing
She replied: What am I supposed to do?? I have work tomorrow! I got to find a place to go to right now?? I don't want to be near you, I don't want to talk to you, I don't want anything to do with you.
Oh, wawawawa! Poor widdle thing has to go find herself a poor widdle place to stay!
Sorry, that's my personal thought - YOU need to be your caring, considerate self. Ask her if she needs help getting a taxi if she is determined to leave the house.
D-Day 2-10-2009 Fully Recovered and Better Than Ever! Thank you Marriage Builders!
If I run into her again before she leaves, I will tell her I am going to walmart to get some food since I am just moving in and I'll ask if she wants something as a gesture of good faith.
No. Don't leave. Sit tight tonight. Order out if you need chow for dinner.
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She is STOMPING through the house, slamming things closed.
Very good! You said she enjoyed your guitar-playing; keep it up. You don't want to behave in a new way; if guitar-playing is a normal activity of yours, strum on.
She's pissed. Well done.
D-Day 2-10-2009 Fully Recovered and Better Than Ever! Thank you Marriage Builders!
I would like to hear Hair of the Dog by Nazareth, please SIR!
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt
So after transcribing our conversations, do you guys think I said the right things? Mostly at least?
you are doing great!!
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt
Be careful in case she calls the police. If she does, calmly tell them that you are married and this is your home. Your wife is unhappy because she is having an affair and apparently had loverboy in YOUR HOUSE over the weekend while you were away. If they ask you to leave to "keep the peace" tell them that you would like to cooperate but you are not willing to leave your home.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt
Oh, wawawawa! Poor widdle thing has to go find herself a poor widdle place to stay! 
