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hahhahahahahahhahaa  Dr Harley just told a caller this on his radio show. He was explaining to the betrayed wife of a serial cheater that she needed to come to the forum and tell us about her situation so we could help her be strong.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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He told her she was being too weak.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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I hope the lady does follow his advice because we could really help this woman.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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We're not so big on wimpy men, either!
Folks, recovery is not for wimps. (I think Pepperband originated that, but I can't be sure.)
If you are serious about saving your marriage, you can't get it all on this forum. You've got to listen to the Marriage Builders Radio show, every day. Install the app! Married to my radiant trophy wife, Prisca, 19 years. Father of 8. Attended Marriage Builders weekend in May 2010 If your wife is not on board with MB, some of my posts to other men might help you.
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The ONLY possible comment by males here: ![[Linked Image from us.123rf.com]](http://us.123rf.com/400wm/400/400/cgart/cgart1112/cgart111200017/11656159-three-monkeys.jpg)
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*wimpy* does not get the job done. If it did, we'd condone the *wimpy*.
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We're not so big on wimpy men, either!
Folks, recovery is not for wimps. (I think Pepperband originated that, but I can't be sure.) Cannot be overstated! Recovery is hard work and requires strength and endurance!
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M - 35 years
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Back in love after the worst thing that every happened to us.
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"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Well, if I am to believe my Lil ol Ladies... ain't much room for wimps.
Recovery ain't for wimps.
and...
Gettin' old ain't for sissies.
If I had a wooden nickel...
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"Smart people believe weird things because they are skilled at defending beliefs they arrived at for non-smart reasons." - Michael Shermer
"Fair speech may hide a foul heart." - Samwise Gamgee LOTR
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hahhahahahahahhahaa Dr Harley just told a caller this on his radio show. He was explaining to the betrayed wife of a serial cheater that she needed to come to the forum and tell us about her situation so we could help her be strong. 
FWW/BW (me)
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Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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I kept waiting for Dr. Harley to single out a couple of strong women on this forum. "Seek out Melody and Pepper. They'll set ya straight!".
Now this poor gal. Her H sounds like a mess. Affairs, hooking up with friends of his neice via the neice's help, soliciting men for a hook up. Blech.
They spoke of his inability to control his impulses. Sounds like she should never leave his side. Which is what Dr. Harley was pushing for.
Me: 57 Her: 54
M: 31 years
Kids(DS23, DD20, DS18)
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Yep, he was a real creep! Yuck...
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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... single out a couple of strong women on this forum.
Shhhhh! There are those of us here who dread the possibility that the Doc and the Mrs will reference the goings-on here too directly.
Oh, sure, "Xena the Southwest Warrior Princess" and "The California Earth Mother" might come off as worthy, but......(shudder)
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Can someone link the segment? I would love to hear it....
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Folks, recovery is not for wimps. (I think Pepperband originated that, but I can't be sure.) Yeah. Sounds like one of my sound bites. Recovery requires near constant self control, a deep respect for honesty, and a commitment to self-adjust whatever needs to be adjusted. For me, recovery also required faith that I would be OK even if our marriage failed. Wimps usually cannot muster all of that. Which is one of the benefits of the MB process .... BOTH plan A and plan B build the required anti-wimp muscles required. Self control - check Respect for honesty - check Commitment to self adjust when necessary - check
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anti-wimp muscles pep u rock!
Me BW: 30
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