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Re: Al-anon faulty thinking
Pepperband #2726378 05/10/13 03:57 PM
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With who???? Everyone here says it is a waste of time to go to a counselor?? My husband doesn't really trust them either... So... what should I do?
Re: Al-anon faulty thinking
hopefulwife47 #2726382 05/10/13 04:05 PM
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Originally Posted by tiredwife45
With who???? Everyone here says it is a waste of time to go to a counselor?? My husband doesn't really trust them either... So... what should I do?

No.
Everyone here says ~~~> for marriage saving plans, THIS is the place to be.

If you are having problems with your own mental health, you may want to ask to be accessed by an MD level practitioner who specializes in such things.

If you are not having problems with your own mental health, then MB to the letter will make sense to you and you will be able to make measurable progress to improve your marriage. MB is very much behavioral based. Just like dog training! LOL rotflmao

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Re: Al-anon faulty thinking
hopefulwife47 #2726385 05/10/13 04:14 PM
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Originally Posted by tiredwife45
My dad was manic depressive

This family history PLUS you admitting that you have very dark thoughts that would basically make you unlovable if anyone knew about them .... makes me very doubtful about my ability to actually help you. Not saying you are beyond help, but saying your problems may be ill fitted to a message board designed to help improve marriages.

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Re: Al-anon faulty thinking
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Originally Posted by Pepperband
PS:

I'm getting better. I have to stay on top of myself.
Mental dusting.

Breaking the "ties" that bound us in unhealthy thinking or behavior. Have to remind myself once I untie, I do not go back to re tie.

"Get busy living, or get busy dying"...... The Shawshank Redemption.
Re: Al-anon faulty thinking
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Originally Posted by Pepperband
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I'm getting better. I have to stay on top of myself.
Mental dusting.

Breaking the "ties" that bound us in unhealthy thinking. Have to remind myself once I untie, I do not go back to re tie.

Yeah.
Good one.

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Re: Al-anon faulty thinking
hopefulwife47 #2726482 05/10/13 10:49 PM
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Originally Posted by tiredwife45
With who???? Everyone here says it is a waste of time to go to a counselor?? My husband doesn't really trust them either... So... what should I do?

There are some posters who don't believe in mental illness here.
But Dr Harley, on his radio show, does not discourage people from mental health treatment.
He does encourage to include the spouse in the treatment plan and placing the marriage as a priority
Re: Al-anon faulty thinking
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