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Spokeo was just basic stuff from face book and other things. It was like the info on it was either way off or way out of date.
Married for 3 years
And going through a seperation.
me bh 33
her ww 34
2 kids
her dd 14
my ds 8
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Spokeo was just basic stuff from face book and other things. It was like the info on it was either way off or way out of date. Intelius was better. Gave you criminal history, address and family contacts, age and workplace if had it and fellow neighbors. Everything that is public.
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2nd M for both
Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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I am so on it. Thank you so much.
Married for 3 years
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me bh 33
her ww 34
2 kids
her dd 14
my ds 8
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I am so on it. Thank you so much. You're welcome, friend. 
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2nd M for both
Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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I hope I am doing good. My favorite saying is dont panic. From hitch hikers guide to the galaxy. So no matter what happens I try not to panic. Do what I need to do.
Married for 3 years
And going through a seperation.
me bh 33
her ww 34
2 kids
her dd 14
my ds 8
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Well I heard from her half sister that her modeling flopped bad so she probably wont get extra income now. Guess she is almost at rock bottom. I feel bad for her I knew that the agency was bogus I even warned her. Before the a happened. I feel bad in a way.
Married for 3 years
And going through a seperation.
me bh 33
her ww 34
2 kids
her dd 14
my ds 8
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Well I heard from her half sister that her modeling flopped bad so she probably wont get extra income now. Guess she is almost at rock bottom. I feel bad for her I knew that the agency was bogus I even warned her. Before the a happened. I feel bad in a way. Sometimes the best wake up calls for waywards are when they hit rock bottom. OM won't be able to help her financially and I'm sure the fights will get worse.
FWW/BW (me)
WH
2nd M for both
Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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True that when you act on emotion you dont tend to think about the future. What I feel happy about is my predictions are right even though you guys have seen the same thing over and over. Guess affairs are a form of insanity by doing the same thing and expecting a differant result.
Married for 3 years
And going through a seperation.
me bh 33
her ww 34
2 kids
her dd 14
my ds 8
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Can I ask for some examples of carrots cause the stick part it seems I hit it out the park.
Married for 3 years
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me bh 33
her ww 34
2 kids
her dd 14
my ds 8
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Can I ask for some examples of carrots cause the stick part it seems I hit it out the park. Have you heard this one? Radio Clip on Working Marriage while Separated What do you think?
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WH
2nd M for both
Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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Lol it seems like ww is trying to kick me off the car insurance but I paid my half it makes no sense. Should I just get a policy for my self?
Married for 3 years
And going through a seperation.
me bh 33
her ww 34
2 kids
her dd 14
my ds 8
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Thank you brain hurts for the link it has given me some thing to work on.
Married for 3 years
And going through a seperation.
me bh 33
her ww 34
2 kids
her dd 14
my ds 8
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Lol it seems like ww is trying to kick me off the car insurance but I paid my half it makes no sense. Should I just get a policy for my self? That may be better, so you don't end up uninsured. How did you find this out? Also, you're welcome for the link.
FWW/BW (me)
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2nd M for both
Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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I got a phone call from the insurance company they wont drop me if I dont have insurance. I am thinking I might as well so she thinks im not trying to screw her over. But it is upsetting that I am the bad guy in her eyes.
Married for 3 years
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me bh 33
her ww 34
2 kids
her dd 14
my ds 8
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I got a phone call from the insurance company they wont drop me if I dont have insurance. I am thinking I might as well so she thinks im not trying to screw her over. But it is upsetting that I am the bad guy in her eyes. You know why waywards do that, correct? Make the BS out to be the bad guy?
FWW/BW (me)
WH
2nd M for both
Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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Its a justification to make themselves to believe they are doing the right thing.
Married for 3 years
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me bh 33
her ww 34
2 kids
her dd 14
my ds 8
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Its a justification to make themselves to believe they are doing the right thing. You're correct. Have you finished reading SAA? What Plan A ideas have you come up with?
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WH
2nd M for both
Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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Ive read it twice and I am going to get a place. And I am going to take dsd and my ds to lagoon and I threw a invite to ww with out expectations.
Married for 3 years
And going through a seperation.
me bh 33
her ww 34
2 kids
her dd 14
my ds 8
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Also ww and my mother do not get along so mom has to be out of my life until she accepts dsd and my ww.
Married for 3 years
And going through a seperation.
me bh 33
her ww 34
2 kids
her dd 14
my ds 8
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Ive read it twice and I am going to get a place. And I am going to take dsd and my ds to lagoon and I threw a invite to ww with out expectations. Excellent. Plan stuff (even just going to the park) and always invite her along. If she says no, go anyway and take pictures of you and the kids and send them to her.
FWW/BW (me)
WH
2nd M for both
Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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