But keep in mind, if you do this, your WH will know that you did it because the password will be changed (I think).

So if you are going to do this, be sure you have time to screenshot/email yourself any damning evidence.

I gave you some help over in your OI thread.

Do you have access to your WH's cell phone records? Have you checked the credit/debit records?

This link has some info on unlocking Android phones. See if it helps you:

How to Unlock an Android Phone

Threads merged.

Even if you can't get into his phone, a VAR in his car will probably catch him talking to her.

So what is your gameplan Cherry?

Ok to all on the forum: sorry all we have are smartphones. so a key tracker would be pointless. We do have a laptop but it is severly damaged and needs virus removal so it doent work much anymore. i suppose it would not hurt to try to download it although the computer is about fried. I am now talking from my phone so sorry for the long silence, but got a lot of responses real quick that did not make sense because of abbreviations and such. since my husband has been gone i have sole access to the bank account and know when he spends any kind of money. he does not have the password but can check the balances for indescrepancys. it is a joint account. i am worried about having to purchase software and items like recorders as I'm afraid hell find out or they will be delivered when he is home so i figure i will ask a friend to buy it for me and me pay her back (in increments if a large purchase) i can

What abbreviations are you confused about?
VAR - Voice Activated Recorder
PI - Private Investigator
GPS - Global Positioning System
xWH - ex wayward husband

-Sorry- crazy smartphone.....i can say "oh she paid for my lunch so i owe her $20) or something to that effect. i will gather concrete firproof evidence of infidelity first since he is a police officer. should i find what I'm afraid of i will inform his superiors in the police and the army and also will inform the academy. he will be confronted , the locks will be changed, his stuff on the porch with a letter of how he must break it off ! And my conditions for staying married to him. . i will be on hiatus because we share a car as of now (in my name as well as all the other bills) and he still will have a key...so...if i don't want him to take the csr i will stay elsewhere. that's all i have for now. oh! And tonight i will be talking to a friend of his from the academy and his wife whom we are trying to become friends with. i wikl plead with him to tell me anything he knows as well as just let him know how he's treating me ( the emotional and mental abuse) so that if we ever hang out as couples heand his wife will know how I'm actually being treated as opposed to how he is portraying our relationship. i will update when i can. sorry if i didn't answer all of your questions. i will treat him as normal. that is key. thanks for your support.

Thanks for the abbreviation help. those were the ones.

Cherry, you may get the info you need by placing a VAR in his car. Don't get the cheapest one - the sound quality isn't good. Pick the next step up, price-wise. You can get it at Best Buy.

I generally suggest buying two so you can switch them out when the batteries are getting low and so you can remove them daily to get info - it's just easier to avoid getting caught. If you can only get one, GET ONE.

Get a VAR and we'll help you place it in his car.

I agree with maritalbliss. You are so strong, Cherry!

Way to go! You can do this.

Prisca, that android unlock link states that all info will be lost if it is done. and since his smartphone has incriminating evidence i do not want to do that. also if done he will know i have done this as his password will have changed. i really would like tp know if the sim card switch is a possibility. if i stick it in my phone will my phone then be locked (meaning is the phone lock connected to his phone or his sim card?) If it is only a phone lock, durring the night i can switch our sims and send myself anything incriminating...then switch them back. Does this sound or is it feesable to anyone? I will be trying to acquire. a AR/ VR in the process through a friend. And i will be setting myself up a seperate account and stashing money away just in case he gets the wild hair to leave soon. i just have to be off work durring bank hours in order to do so.

From my reading today, a sim card switch will not work because it is the sim that is locked, not the phone.
But I'm no expert on phones.

I would say that it wouldn't hurt to try it.

But even if you can't get into his phone, I think a VAR in his car will get you what you need.

NEED HELP!! I'M SO STRESSED OUT!! I need to get this proof badly! I have Bern diagnosed with an anxiety disorder...mild...but I am freaking out! It is so hard for me to treat my husband nicely when I feel so disgusted that he is Lyon to me and hiding things. I need proof fast because I'm afraid that I will undermine myself!

Problem 1) joint account.
I'm in the process of setting up an account but don't have money to get a be.

Problem 2) I'm afraid I'm gonna blow up!! Need help to keep calm!!!!

Sorry to get a VR.

I angered him yesterday. I was scared and went to the police to let them know about the mental,verbal and emotional abuse...now because he's a cop they are gonna be watching him. I was trying to take care of me and now I don't know? He said now they will be looking at him closely and looking at our marriage...do you think this will keep him accountable? Make it hard for me to spy? Make him dig deeper? I'm so stressed!!!

CLL, if you mean that he will see that you spent $$ on a VAR, can you go buy one of the VISA cards at any grocery or drug store? Or withdraw the cash and tell him you went out to eat with a friend or something?

Can you see your doctor about getting on an AD to help you through this crisis? Dr Harley has recommended this for people in Plan A/Plan B because it is extremely stressful. What about self-care? Exercise, etc? If you feel yourself getting ready to blow up or anxiety around your H, leave the room.

You need to get that VAR installed, like, today.

Hang in there.

It is in your best interests to remain as calm as possible and put on a "James Bond" face while you gather your evidence. Can you borrow money from family or friends to purchase the necessary items?

Can you get on ADs as soon as possible? They will help keep your mind clear so you can make good decisions.

If you do a trickle exposure, your H will take the A underground and make it that much harder for you to get your evidence.

In spite of your great anxiety and heartache, do your best to avoid all love busters. Keep calm and keep working on how you get some money from your joint account.

I thought your friend was going to get a VAR for you?

You did right going to the police if your husband was so angry he scared you. Did he hurt you physically?