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Ok, finances does at least cause some stress in marriage and with him taking a job that pays about half of what he was making, that stress IS coming.
Me: 34 BH
Her: 31 FWW
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I've been researching different programs to block Facebook - most of them seem to be available for computers only - I need to have it on my iPhone.
Right now it's not installed, and there is a password needed to get into my settings to be able to install it (I don't have the password) but my BS has asked that this be done. Does anyone have any experience or advice for this software? You could also consider just getting a dumb phone, like an older version flip phone without internet capability. That would keep you off social networks entirely. I don't think you ever answered this post, mrscen. Was this ever taken care of?
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I've been researching different programs to block Facebook - most of them seem to be available for computers only - I need to have it on my iPhone.
Right now it's not installed, and there is a password needed to get into my settings to be able to install it (I don't have the password) but my BS has asked that this be done. Does anyone have any experience or advice for this software? You could also consider just getting a dumb phone, like an older version flip phone without internet capability. That would keep you off social networks entirely. I don't think you ever answered this post, mrscen. Was this ever taken care of? Yes Susie, it was - blocked from phone.
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I've been researching different programs to block Facebook - most of them seem to be available for computers only - I need to have it on my iPhone.
Right now it's not installed, and there is a password needed to get into my settings to be able to install it (I don't have the password) but my BS has asked that this be done. Does anyone have any experience or advice for this software? You could also consider just getting a dumb phone, like an older version flip phone without internet capability. That would keep you off social networks entirely. I don't think you ever answered this post, mrscen. Was this ever taken care of? Yes Susie, it was - blocked from phone. How did you do this?
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Go to "settings" "general" "restrictions"- enable passlock, block apps.
As I told my H - my father entered the code so I don't have it.
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What would make your BH feel safe?
For you to have a dumb phone?
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Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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Go to "settings" "general" "restrictions"- enable passlock, block apps.
As I told my H - my father entered the code so I don't have it. OK that blocks the app, but what about the web browser, you can still log onto FB from there?
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Go to "settings" "general" "restrictions"- enable passlock, block apps.
As I told my H - my father entered the code so I don't have it. OK that blocks the app, but what about the web browser, you can still log onto FB from there? Yes. So why not get a dumb phone?
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Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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If that's what he needs to feel safe - then I will get a "dumb" phone.
I thought with mSpy on my phone that would make him feel better.
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If that's what he needs to feel safe - then I will get a "dumb" phone.
I thought with mSpy on my phone that would make him feel better. Have you asked him?
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You seem to need a lot of prodding.
Why not just get the other phone to show him you're serious?
I pick up so much resentment from you that you have to make so many 'sacrifices' to help him.
How about going at this with the intention of making yourself a better person? A better wife and mother.
The phone police comment is just one example of what I mean here. You show reluctance to do the right thing and frame it as something for HIM instead of seeing it for the good of everyone, most importantly you.
I don't think you get it.
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I think your assuming to much Zibbles - how does one "pick up resentment"? I have done nothing since I started this process but want to fix my marriage. I have been following the suggestions, advice and comments that have been made.
I'm sorry you feel I don't "get it" - that's just not how it is.
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If that's what he needs to feel safe - then I will get a "dumb" phone.
I thought with mSpy on my phone that would make him feel better. I am confused as to why you acted as if FB was blocked when it is still accessible through the web browser though? It seems to me, an outsider, that you were trying to make it seem as though you were honoring his request when you really weren't. Plus you didn't respond when you brought this issue to our attention and it was recommended that you get the dumb phone. It's like making half-hearted attempts when you should be going the extra mile to make your BH comfortable.
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FWW/BW (me)
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Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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Did you turn in your iPhone?
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She's not going to turn in her iphone. She obviously values it more than her marriage. I mean, it has games on it!
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Mrs.Cen, what gives? 
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@zibbles: I agree its not like you can use it to update your thread and better your marriage (insert heavy sarcasm).
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Three weeks (and several note erasures) ago I noted that this WW had no intention of taking recovery seriously. ***EDIT***
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ok Mrs. Cen. You've probably left here feeling all misunderstood and angry that we don't 'get' your situation.
You followed instructions and wrote out a timeline except you TEXTED IT? Huh?
I can see how you think you're following the steps but the way you're choosing to follow the steps is pretty damaging.
I guess you can say you tried once the divorce goes down and then get back out in the world armed with iphone and self satisfaction.
Well done.
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