How did last night go?

4th time this has been asked. What is your plan for your anger?

Hey, I'm going to begin counselling for anger. Last night went very well as did today. I do have moments of disbelief (I can't believe I am still doing this when 99% of other men would have been gone from day one) and anger but I just let them pass and they do. I am going to ask my wife to take these classes with me.

Truthfully, it's mostly me that has a problem with me leaving the rig. Financial is not very high on my wife's list of needs, it's high on mine. We need to find a common ground for this as financial is in my top five.

Also order the book lovebusters as well. It will help reinforce the anger manangment classes and help with your mutual disrespect, demands and other damaging behavior you both need to eliminate in order to recover.

Did you listen to this?

You know, that's what Dr. Harley said he expected when he began counseling, but he was AMAZED at how many people wanted to recover their marriage after betrayal, if possible. It makes sense to keep families together, if the romantic love can be restored and everybody made safe.

Did not see an answer to this. Is your wife okay? Back with you? How is your daughter?

When?
Have you read what Dr. Harley says about anger yet?

Financial support is an emotional need that needs to be met by the OTHER PERSON in order to create romantic love. So I don't think that is an EN of yours. Sure, you have a need to earn a living, but it should be done in a way that complements your marriage, rather than harms it. That means you don't spend the nights apart. Find something that makes you both happy that does not endanger your marriage.

My wife has left me. Not sure why as things were very good. She got angry because one if my old rig buddies called and I didn't want to talk to him so I never answered. She left and sent a text stating that she wants half the money from our account. I took our daughter and went and got her money. While I was gone she came home and took my laptop and held it for ransom. She went on it and found some pictures of some girls that I got off a knife forum (I collect knives) years ago. Now she is saying I had an affair? I don't even know those girls and have never stepped outside of our marriage. She came and got her money and handed me the computer and keys to the apartment and she drove away. There was no AO on my part.

She just sent me a text stating that she is at the casino gambling our rent money away. She has a problem with gambling which I thought she had under control. She said she will come tomorrow to get her things. I don't get it, she wanted to have another baby with me this morning than because I wouldn't talk to one of my friends on the phone it's over?

You knew she has a problem with gambling and you complied with her request for half the money from your account?

Did you communicate with these girls at all?


Good for you staying calm; you have no hope without it.

They were??

Why do you have pictures of girls on your computer?

When are you going to take anger management?
Have you read what Dr. Harley says about anger?

Would you please start answering questions?

Things sure didn't look good at all. A week and a half ago he assaulted her. The cops have been to the home since then. Wife disappears all the time. Two nights ago she cried all night on the balcony.

Is this as good as marriage gets?

No have never contacted these girls, I don't even know them. I have lots of pics on my computer that I save from the web. These were just a few of them. I am going to get into anger management. I know it was a bad idea giving her the money but thats what she wanted. She texted back stating that she has lost all the money so I guess I have to let other bills slide as the rent has to get paid for my daughters well being. I have called my cell service provider and cancelled service to her iPhone, I dont need any added charges now. I though things were really good, she was happy, I was happy and we were talking about another baby even. She was crying on the balcony a few nights ago. She said she was terrified that I was going to leave her and now a couple days later she up and leaves? I don't know guys? She wont be back tonight, even if she comes back I won't allow her back in, I am tired of my little girl seeing all this, mommy comes then mommy goes again. I can't keep it up for my baby's sake something has to change. Either my wife wants this or not.

Did she tell you why she left?

She left because I wouldn't talk to one of my rig buddies. She said that I didn't want to talk to him while she was there because she thinks I am hiding something. The reason I didn't want to talk was because all he talks about is how well he's doing in life. He's buying another house, he's buying a new fifth-wheel holiday trailer.....etc. I just don't want to hear it. So, thats why she left. Great reason eh? I'm baffled by the whole thing really. So, now like many other nights its just me and my little girl and mommy is gone AWOL again. I did go to the police again after she started sending messages, I'm not dealing with another situation like before. I showed them the texts where she said she left and took some of my things and said if I didn't give her the money she would start destroying things. They informed me not to allow her back into the home, if she wants her things than they will come and "help" her remove them. But she left and the cop even said its not working, she gave me back the keys to the apartment as well and my laptop. I've asked her to come back but she said no.

What on earth for? Why would you save pictures of women that you see on the web?



Wouldn't this be offensive to most women?