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This is a dirtbag that I DO NOT want around my girls. So my question is, do I still expose to try to break them up? She admitted that she hasn't told anybody in her life about him because "I tell them what I want to tell them". Or is it pointless at this point? As I mentioned, I don't care what she gets herself into. I just don't want my girls around him. YES. And contact your attorney immediately and have him put it in your custody papers that your daughters not be exposed to her adultery partners. I would also run a background check on the OM. You should expose the affair to everyone. I work in the courthouse, so I have checked what I can. Aside from a lot of motor vehicle issues (Careless Driving, etc), he has no felonies. So if I expose, the gist of the letter is usually to ask the family & friends to ask them to urge W (and OM) to stop seeing each other so my marriage can be saved. Even though that's not what I want, do I say the same thing? Basically I would pretend to want to R?
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Also, "losing your feelings" is not really a good reason to give up. You are certainly within your rights to give up, but lost feelings can be found again. If you choose to give up, no one would fault you. I don't want to R anymore because I have zero respect for her on so many levels. She wants this D mostly because of me. But the other part is that she doesn't want to be a full time mother. I have zero respect for that. Plus, she is fake to me and I would never trust whether she is being genuine or whether she's putting on a mask again. I don't want to live like that.
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So if I expose, the gist of the letter is usually to ask the family & friends to ask them to urge W (and OM) to stop seeing each other so my marriage can be saved. Even though that's not what I want, do I say the same thing? Basically I would pretend to want to R? No, the purpose of exposure is to expose, not to necessarily save your marriage. All you do is change the letters to inform them of the affair and ------------most importantly----------> that your marriage broke up because of the affair.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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