She never left, she said she was leaving. I went out and looked to see if she was gone and the car was still out in the parking stall so I just thought she was sitting in it wanting to be alone. Later, while I was in bed I hear crying, I came out of the bedroom and she was on the couch crying, she never left. She was on the balcony for a few hours. She even watched me go out and see if the car was still there. Thats just it, I was happy and I thought she was, she sure seemed like it anyway but all of a sudden something just changed and she left us.

And you THOUGHT SHE WAS HAPPY?

That was 2 days ago. She was not happy, and you know it. Stop pretending you don't know why she left. Nobody threatens to leave one day, is too happy to leave the next day, then leaves for no reason on the third day.

you have cut all communication - I need my medication, please let me come and get it.

She left because you abused her. We've told you that already.
She left because YOU are not serious about recovery.

What are you going to do about it?

mrs.cen, call the police if he has medication you need and won't give it to you.

I don't know what to say, she said she was happy but scared all the time. Maybe she felt she was walking on eggshells and I didn't even realize it. She acted happy and said so but I really don't know what she is feeling, she only knows that. Her attitude just seems to flip on a dime and then shes gone, then shes back.

I never cut all communication, the house phone has not rung once. of course she can have her medication. I've been asking her to come home all night. The buzzer for the apartment hasn't gone off?

Is there some reason you never answer this question?

you know i dont have that number

I'll send an e-mail tonight.

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This thread is difficult to follow because there seems to be a lot of gaps and inconsistencies. But this much is certain: serious intervention is needed here. Both of you are incapable of handling this without help.

Contact the Harleys. Wait for their input. Cease fire.

I am/was serious about recovery. I can't recover what she doesn't want back. She has left a number of times, even before I put her out. She's gone again tonight and even gave up her keys to the apartment.

I'm working on the E-mail right now.

YOU DEMANDED THEM BACK (Sorry I wont continue to comment - you are not being honest)
PLEASE let me have my meds.

you can have them, you just need to come get them.

Well, she came to get her meds. When I opened the door she just barged in and won't leave. She says she is done with the recovery program and will not have anything to do with the NC letter which was not accepted at the door. . She thinks I had an affair? Because there are pics on my computer of girls that I don't know? I don't even remember when I got those. Other wise prove it? You all seem to think so as well? I guess that will hold up in court, yeah right! You say it's not me looking to recover? Why did I take her back to try reconciling? It's not me who doesn't want this, It's her.

Oh you want recovery on your terms and not using MB. You want that old marriage back were you were in charge and your wife was your servant. It seems when you don't get what you want you use AOs and the police to get it regardless on how she feels. That needs to stop as well as the not answering questions and lying. You know why those pics where there.

Your wife needs to stop the soiled princess act as well and be serious. She is still in contact with POSOM IMO and he's looking better everyday you act like a domineering caveman. What were the EPs? You do know they apply to both of you! What meds she need so desperately? This is going on with your daughter present? For shame!

I am not acting domineering. I simply told her that she can't leave, then return and so on. She either stays or she goes its simple. My EPs are the same as hers only I will not give her access to my email which contains legal info between me and my lawyer (I'm not stupid) we are reconciling not reconciled. I think she is in contact also. She no longer has the iPhone as I have had it cut off. She no longer even has keys to the apartment. My wife was never my servant. My wife has some psychiatric problems and is under the care of a psychiatrist. She suffers from sever panic and anxiety. Nothing is going on with my daughter present, I won't do that anymore. As for the pics I don't know. She can say what she wants but I don't even know those people. Otherwise show proof something happened. Something's have to be changed in the program, I have no choice but to go to the rig, have to pay bills some how now that money is gambled away. She did this last week as well, she left then wanted money so I gave it to her and its gone. I have some thinking to do.