My husband had an affair with one of his daughter's friends (I know sick). She is now pregnant, she claims by him.

The thing is, we had a child in 2002 after trying for about 6 mths. Then we wanted a second child and tried for 3 years after that and finally underwent fertility tests and treatment.

The specialists tested me for everything imaginable. Conclusion: I was fine, my eggs were healthy, my fallopian tubes were unobstructed and eggs were moving down normally.

Husband: Sperm count low, morphology bad, swim speed: bad.

HOW DID THIS HAPPEN? Of course she swears its his and he's bought into it hook line and sinker. He only came clean to me after at 8wks, she decided she was not going to terminate it. The first few weeks after D-Day he told me he wanted to rebuild our marriage, and wanted nothing to do with her, the pregnancy or the child. Turns out he's never stopped seeing her and a friend of a friend told me she posted on FB pics of my STBXH and her at her 20p wk ultrasound.

I confronted him and he said he cannot walk away from his baby and if I don't accept the child and partake in visitation, he is going to MOVE IN WITH HER! Of course, I kicked his sorry azz to the kerb where it belongs.

This woman he got pregnant - he left her and told her he was going to try to reconcile with me. A few days after he ended it, she told him she was pregnant. He dumped his family (again) and went back to her "the right thing to do" and turns out she wasn't pregnant at all, but got pregnant a few weeks later. Surprise, surprise.

She is now 23 wks along.

Oh yes.. I have filed for divorce.

So as much as I want him and his drama out of our lives, I wonder how the heck did he get her pregnant? We didn't use any birth control for 9 years after our DS was born. Nothing. And I never could get pregnant again. Docs advised us to use donor sperm since his was so bad.

You did the right thing kicking him to the curb. Though I do not NOW regret reconcilling with my husband, I suffered through years of false recoveries because of his inability to walk away from the OW because of the OC. We are 4 plus years into recovery and we have weekly visitation with the OC. NOT what I would have chosen but it has been a true blessing to see my husband transformed into a man of God.

How are you handling this with your child from your marriage? Does he/she know the whole truth? Do you plan to allow your child to visit at their home with the OW and OC present?

I know one other person that something similar happened that the husband was basically sterile and yes, the child was his after DNA was done. Once in a lifetime chance and the wife was not the lucky one. *hugs*

Yes its probably his. One in a million chance - remember it wasn't me that had the issue it was his sperm. I had a healthy baby in 2002.

I have a question and please forgive me but I need to know. I've read tons of threads in this section and I want to know:

- Why do women chose to stay with a man that does this? Wouldn't it be better to leave a cheater and start again?

- How could you possibly forgive him?

No our son has not been told as yet. I have filed for divorce and will fight tooth and nail to get as much custody as possible, at least until the STBXH and OW's "relationship" implodes, which will in probably a short period of time.

When he fessed up about getting her pregnant, he told me he wanted nothing to do with the OC, OW - nothing. He said he didn't even like her much he was just seeing her for sex, yada yada. Turns out he never stopped seeing her and when I filed divorce papers he started saying he would move in with her. Pathetic man.

You want to file as soon as possible so that your child gets first crack. If you file after she does you will get less child support.

Already have. Prepared a marital settlement agreement, child support and spousal support set, judge signed off on it. Just waiting for final judgment.

She can take a swing at what's left of his salary. I wonder if she knows she won't get as much as she thought she would....

My husband is not perfect and neither am I. I had an affair about 3 years into our M. Not proud of it but I have definitely changed my ways since then. I have learned a lot about boundaries which I had no clue of back then. My H had two affairs, the second one produced the OC. To tell you the truth I DID file for divorce and I had no interest in reconciling once I learned he was still seeing her. However, I had two young kids at that time that I wanted to protect from ever coming in contact with HER. So, I stayed planning to divorce when my DD turned 18. Well in that time my husband turned his life around, confessed his sins in front of our church and apologized for his bad choices. He is not the model husband by any means but he has definitely become someone I trust and love deeply.

See if you can get a clause in there that no persons or paramours of the opposite sex can be around your child unless he or you is married. That might have to be modified to say "no overnights" but I would ask for the world and see what you get.