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Cherry, did he go away with her this past weekend? Did you expose??
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To who? What happened? Did he still go away?
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Has he agreed to a No Contact Letter?
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I exposed to his work, his friends and family, my friends and family, the OW family and some friends on Facebook message. (Havent heard anything from her family or husband despite leaving my cell number) I also now have an ap on his phone called smstracker that is showing me everything from GPS and URLs visited to photos and texts sent as well as calls and duration. currently on the 7 day free trial after it ends for all of those options its only $65.00 a year. and the basic sms messages are always free. I have an android phone and it works well. also there is an additional download that will disguise the app so that you can delete the icon.
he did agree to a no contact letter, need the link please to a template to print off for him to go by.
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As far as I have evidence he did not go see her..but I don't know.
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My advice is to write a final letter in a way that the victimized spouse would agree to send it. It should begin with a statement of how selfish it was to cause those they loved so much pain, and while marital reconciliation cannot completely repay the offense, it's the right thing to do. A statement should be made about how much the unfaithful spouse cares about his spouse and family, and for their protection, has decided to completely end the relationship with the lover. He or she has promised never to see or communicate with the lover again in life, and asks the lover to respect that promise. Nothing should be said about how much the lover will be missed. After the letter is written, the victimized spouse should read and approve it before it is sent [from SAA, pg 58] OW, I want you to know that out of respect and love for my wife and children, I have come to realize that I must never see or talk to you again. My relationship with you was a cruel indulgence that BS did not deserve. While I cannot completely repay BS for the pain I caused her, I will do my best to become the husband she has been missing. I care a great deal for my family and I would not want to do anything to risk their happiness. I will not make any further contact with you and I do not want you to make any contact with me. Please respect my desire to end our relationship. Sincerely, XXXXX
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I exposed to his work, his friends and family, my friends and family, the OW family and some friends on Facebook message. (Havent heard anything from her family or husband despite leaving my cell number) I also now have an ap on his phone called smstracker that is showing me everything from GPS and URLs visited to photos and texts sent as well as calls and duration. currently on the 7 day free trial after it ends for all of those options its only $65.00 a year. and the basic sms messages are always free. I have an android phone and it works well. also there is an additional download that will disguise the app so that you can delete the icon.
he did agree to a no contact letter, need the link please to a template to print off for him to go by. Did you pay the $1 a message on Facebook to go to their inbox? They may have not received the messages because the messages might have went to their "other messages" folder.
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It didn't give me the option to pay.
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It didn't give me the option to pay. Did you do it from a regular computer or an IPad or kindle or something?
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Did it from my Samsung smart phone.
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Did it from my Samsung smart phone. Ok so you can almost guarantee that they went to their other folder. Can you resend them from a computer?
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I never knew about the "other" folder until I read about it here so I bet some of ny exposure letters didn't go to their in box either. Oh well.
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I never knew about the "other" folder until I read about it here so I bet some of ny exposure letters didn't go to their in box either. Oh well. It depends on when you exposed. Facebook started doing this ~6 months ago maybe longer. I checked mine and had a few old messages.
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Yeah, mine had some old messages too. I think most people use their smartphones and tablets and you don't even see that folder on those. So its a good tip to use a pc for Facebook exposure.
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Yeah, mine had some old messages too. I think most people use their smartphones and tablets and you don't even see that folder on those. So its a good tip to use a pc for Facebook exposure. We will have to see if the MODS can add it since the Exposure 101 thread is locked. Good call RQ.
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I will try...I work long hours at a job that has a private internets. the only hope I have is the library which usually is closed by the Time I get home. it kinda sux that Facebook works that way...its been two weeks...I so want to move on...I'm growing more angry and more empty by the day. my taker is taking over and I'm having a really hard time controlling my angry outbursts. a major reason is I have anxiety already and so I'm flying off the handle. I'm starting to compromise my survailance.
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You can login to the full Facebook site on your phone and see the folders. That may be better than using the app or loging into the mobile site.
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I contacted the OW. Told her how I felt about her. I feel a little better. Some of my anger is diminished. My husband knew I contacted her. I saw that she's been trying to contact him and he hasn't texted back. I can see that. so I told her to leave my husband alone.
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Even on the web version of Facebook I am unable to even find her or her husband anymore...haven't been able to for quite some time. maybe they did get the messages and blocked me? Idk
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