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Originally Posted by markos
Why did your fiance move in with your parents and sleep with your mother instead of MARRYING you??? crazy

How come you did not answer my question?


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***EDIT*** Nobody wants to witness their mother 'red handed' with anyone let alone their 'fiance'.

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You don't need to catch them "red handed" they already TOLD you this happened.

People often get married and later admit they saw little red flags telling them that they should not have married this person, and regret not paying attention. This guy burned down the house....never mind little red fag.

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@ Markos

We never expected that something like this would happen..he is staying with us as he is working here..we are the only family staying in this city and hence he had to stay in our house..they sleep in the same bed but never ever touched each other till that once insane night..

The 2 days they had sex, my fiancee was drunk..and it happened..

We have planned our marriage next year..my mother is not aware of the fact that me and my fiancee have romance and physical relation..they have literally begged me for forgiveness and want another chance to improve everything..

But they still continue to sleep in the same bed..but I have kept a watch on them and nothing has happened ever since they confessed it..

Should I think over it again...Can I forgive them..Will he be faithful to me hereafter If I give a chance..??


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No. You should not forgive either of them.

He will not be faithful.







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Originally Posted by itshardtotrust
@ Markos

We never expected that something like this would happen..he is staying with us as he is working here..we are the only family staying in this city and hence he had to stay in our house..they sleep in the same bed but never ever touched each other till that once insane night..

The 2 days they had sex, my fiancee was drunk..and it happened..

We have planned our marriage next year..my mother is not aware of the fact that me and my fiancee have romance and physical relation..they have literally begged me for forgiveness and want another chance to improve everything..

But they still continue to sleep in the same bed..but I have kept a watch on them and nothing has happened ever since they confessed it..

Should I think over it again...Can I forgive them..Will he be faithful to me hereafter If I give a chance..??
Why are they in the same bed?

He needs to move out. Your dad needs to be told.


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Originally Posted by itshardtotrust
he is staying with us as he is working here..we are the only family staying in this city and hence he had to stay in our house..

We have planned our marriage next year..my mother is not aware of the fact that me and my fiancee have romance and physical relation..


Let me see if I understand this. Your family has a lodger who is having sex with both you and with your mother. Your mother is not aware of the fact that the two of you have a relationship.

What are you waiting for?


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Also have you been tested for STDs and STIs?


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What are SITs, please Brainy?


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Where ever you live it is not okay.
There is no culture that accepts a man having sex with his potential mother in law.

I can not imagine where you live that they would even potentially be sleeping in a room together. Is it a one room hut? What is the scoop in that?







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I believe it was actually in a bed together, not just in a room together.


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Originally Posted by itshardtotrust
We have planned our marriage next year..my mother is not aware of the fact that me and my fiancee have romance and physical relation..they have literally begged me for forgiveness and want another chance to improve everything..

You would betray your own father just to protect the affair between your mother and your boyfriend?? WHY?? What kind of a daughter does that to her own father? And what kind of daughter MARRIES some SCUMBAG who did it with her own mother in her father's home?

And I am having a very hard time understanding how it is that you have a computer with an internet connection and you live in some remote village in a hut where everyone sleeps together??


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Originally Posted by SugarCane
What are SITs, please Brainy?
Thanks Sugar for catching that.

I meant STIs
Sexual Transmitted Infections


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Oh - I didn't say that because I picked up on your error. I was genuinely worried that there was some new medical threat out there that I needed to know about!


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Originally Posted by MelodyLane
And I am having a very hard time understanding how it is that you have a computer with an internet connection and you live in some remote village in a hut where everyone sleeps together??
She never said it was a hut, Mel. Another poster asked her whether the sleeping arrangements were so bizarre because they lived in a hut.

Keep it real, Mel!


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Originally Posted by SugarCane
Oh - I didn't say that because I picked up on your error. I was genuinely worried that there was some new medical threat out there that I needed to know about!

We used to just call them cooties!!


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Originally Posted by SugarCane
Oh - I didn't say that because I picked up on your error. I was genuinely worried that there was some new medical threat out there that I needed to know about!

smile I didn't take it that way. smile

I was reading a medical article and it said that there are so many sexually transmitted infections that don't turn into diseases but can cause health problems especially for women. There are many infections that can lie dormant.

There are so many different strands of HPV that many can carry the virus and not even know because they don't have physical symptoms. What is scary is that they don't have blood tests that can even catch if you have HPV. They are also finding that there are more strands of HPV that can cause cervical cancer then what they originally thought.

Our girls need to be even more careful then ever before. Men/boys also, but women do get the worst of the HPV. At least they finally have a vaccination for some of the HPV strands.


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Originally Posted by itshardtotrust
We have planned our marriage next year..

You didn't answer my question: why? Why not just get married? Why wait a year and sleep around in the meantime? crazy


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If your mother felt the need to chaperone one of you overnight surely she would have slept beside YOU, her daughter! It makes far more sense for a woman to sleep with her female relative, than with the young male lodger.

I find it hard to credit this story as true. It simply does not add up.

Either your mother told you this outrageous fib so she could sleep with him...

Or you are having some fun at our expense. Which is it?


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"Fear is the little death. Fear is the mind-killer" Frank Herbert.

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I request you all to believe me...this is a real story...I am just blank now...because its related to two people who are close to my heart...I am unable to decide anything...I DO NOT HAVE THAT TIME TO CREATE A STORY TO WASTE MY TIME AND YOUR TIME...

thank you all for your advice's and supportive words...I thought I will get some comfort by sharing it here..but I can see that my pain has only increased seeing most of your replies...

I do not have any STD or STIs...neither do they have...Its all our fate thats playing games with us...we are the players in it...

Satan is trying to ruin our relations...thats why all this is happening...

Thank you all once again...Take care...God shall take care of everything in my life...

BYE


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