Dr. Harley's long awaited revision to Surviving an Affair is out, and you can get it on Amazon:
http://www.amazon.com/Surviving-Affair-Willard-Jr-Harley/dp/0800719549You can even get it in Kindle format:
http://www.amazon.com/Surviving-an-Affair-ebook/dp/B00B85M2AMSo, why don't we read through the book together and discuss it together? Everybody can benefit from studying this book. When Prisca and I attended Marriage Builders weekend, SAA (1st edition) was in the package, with the statement that it was "a book Dr. Harley would like you to read even if you are not faced with the tragedy of an affair." This is a good suggestion for everyone. Learning about what it takes to recover a marriage from the tragedy of an affair helps you learn what it takes to recover romantic love in any marriage. And it will help improve everyone's ability to help the many posters in trouble who come through this forum.
The official discussion thread is in In Recovery here:
http://forum.marriagebuilders.com/u...flat&Number=2742443&#Post2742443We'll take a chapter a week and post our thoughts on that thread and help keep each other motivated to go all the way through the book as we learn and discuss together. I've set up a schedule and I'm hoping many people will join me.
We will do chapter one week, the week of July 14th. Chapter one is very short and you can actually read the whole thing on Amazon by clicking "look inside." We probably won't have a lot to say, but this will give people time to get ahold of the book. Buy it from Amazon, buy it from Marriage Builders, finagle your way onto Marriage Builders Radio as a caller and get it free, but get it somehow. If you buy the Kindle version, you can have it instantly. (You don't even have to have a Kindle; you can read it on your computer.) Chapter two will be the week of July 21st, so try to have it by then.
Post on the discussion thread in In Recovery if you are interested!
http://forum.marriagebuilders.com/u...flat&Number=2742443&#Post274244307-14: 1 You Can Survive This Affair
07-21: 2 It Could Never Happen to Me!
07-28: 3 How Do Affairs Usually Begin?
08-04: 4 How Do Affairs Usually End?
08-11: 5 How Should Affairs End?
08-18: 6 What to Do if the Unfaithful Spouse Continues to Contact the Lover
08-25: 7 The First Steps on the Road to Marital Recovery
09-01: 8 Avoid Withdrawals, Part I: Overcome Love Busters
09-08: 9 Avoid Withdrawals, Part II: Overcome Dishonesty
09-15: 10 Avoid Withdrawals, Part III: Overcome Independent Behavior
09-22: 11 Make Deposits, Part I: Meet the Most Important Emotional Needs
09-29: 12 Make Deposits, Part II: Take Time for Undivided Attention
10-06: 13 Make Deposits, Part III: Protect Your Love Bank from Outside Threats
10-13: 14 Managing Resentment and Restoring Trust
10-20: 15 Sustaining Romantic Love
