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Dr. Harley's long awaited revision to Surviving an Affair is out, and you can get it on Amazon: http://www.amazon.com/Surviving-Affair-Willard-Jr-Harley/dp/0800719549You can even get it in Kindle format: http://www.amazon.com/Surviving-an-Affair-ebook/dp/B00B85M2AMSo, why don't we read through the book together and discuss it together? Everybody can benefit from studying this book. When Prisca and I attended Marriage Builders weekend, SAA (1st edition) was in the package, with the statement that it was "a book Dr. Harley would like you to read even if you are not faced with the tragedy of an affair." This is a good suggestion for everyone. Learning about what it takes to recover a marriage from the tragedy of an affair helps you learn what it takes to recover romantic love in any marriage. And it will help improve everyone's ability to help the many posters in trouble who come through this forum. The official discussion thread is in In Recovery here: http://forum.marriagebuilders.com/u...flat&Number=2742443&#Post2742443We'll take a chapter a week and post our thoughts on that thread and help keep each other motivated to go all the way through the book as we learn and discuss together. I've set up a schedule and I'm hoping many people will join me. We will do chapter one week, the week of July 14th. Chapter one is very short and you can actually read the whole thing on Amazon by clicking "look inside." We probably won't have a lot to say, but this will give people time to get ahold of the book. Buy it from Amazon, buy it from Marriage Builders, finagle your way onto Marriage Builders Radio as a caller and get it free, but get it somehow. If you buy the Kindle version, you can have it instantly. (You don't even have to have a Kindle; you can read it on your computer.) Chapter two will be the week of July 21st, so try to have it by then. Post on the discussion thread in In Recovery if you are interested! http://forum.marriagebuilders.com/u...flat&Number=2742443&#Post274244307-14: 1 You Can Survive This Affair 07-21: 2 It Could Never Happen to Me! 07-28: 3 How Do Affairs Usually Begin? 08-04: 4 How Do Affairs Usually End? 08-11: 5 How Should Affairs End? 08-18: 6 What to Do if the Unfaithful Spouse Continues to Contact the Lover 08-25: 7 The First Steps on the Road to Marital Recovery 09-01: 8 Avoid Withdrawals, Part I: Overcome Love Busters 09-08: 9 Avoid Withdrawals, Part II: Overcome Dishonesty 09-15: 10 Avoid Withdrawals, Part III: Overcome Independent Behavior 09-22: 11 Make Deposits, Part I: Meet the Most Important Emotional Needs 09-29: 12 Make Deposits, Part II: Take Time for Undivided Attention 10-06: 13 Make Deposits, Part III: Protect Your Love Bank from Outside Threats 10-13: 14 Managing Resentment and Restoring Trust 10-20: 15 Sustaining Romantic Love
If you are serious about saving your marriage, you can't get it all on this forum. You've got to listen to the Marriage Builders Radio show, every day. Install the app! Married to my radiant trophy wife, Prisca, 19 years. Father of 8. Attended Marriage Builders weekend in May 2010 If your wife is not on board with MB, some of my posts to other men might help you.
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Sounds like a good learning experience, going to buy it this weekend on my Kindle.
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Can the "newbies" join in on this to? Would be helpful for RNR and I to be able to participate and share as a couple/individually to!
I think it would also clear up some of the "Gary" areas for us.
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Can the "newbies" join in on this to? Would be helpful for RNR and I to be able to participate and share as a couple/individually to!
I think it would also clear up some of the "Gary" areas for us. Of course. Anyone who would like to join the conversation to discuss Dr. Harley's SAA?
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Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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Can the "newbies" join in on this to? Would be helpful for RNR and I to be able to participate and share as a couple/individually to!
I think it would also clear up some of the "Gary" areas for us. Of course. Anyone who would like to join the conversation to discuss Dr. Harley's SAA? Yep, absolutely! I started this for anybody. But ESPECIALLY those who are just starting the difficult stages of recovery need it! It should be a good way to help keep you both accountable for going through the book.
If you are serious about saving your marriage, you can't get it all on this forum. You've got to listen to the Marriage Builders Radio show, every day. Install the app! Married to my radiant trophy wife, Prisca, 19 years. Father of 8. Attended Marriage Builders weekend in May 2010 If your wife is not on board with MB, some of my posts to other men might help you.
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By the way, I posted this in three sections of the forum (SAA, MB101, and Recovery). When we start the book club, be sure to post the discussion on the official thread for maximum benefit: http://forum.marriagebuilders.com/u...flat&Number=2742443&#Post2742443
If you are serious about saving your marriage, you can't get it all on this forum. You've got to listen to the Marriage Builders Radio show, every day. Install the app! Married to my radiant trophy wife, Prisca, 19 years. Father of 8. Attended Marriage Builders weekend in May 2010 If your wife is not on board with MB, some of my posts to other men might help you.
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Maybe we can get them all merged? Or if there is a way we can have them on all three forums, but when they post it will all be on the same thread? You know how we can see threads that are moved and when you go to read it the thread goes to the main thread?
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I was thinking once discussion starts, I'd point anybody who posts on the other threads to the main one. But maybe we can get them merged after the discussion starts.
I wanted there to be an "advertisement" for the club in most of the frequently-travelled parts of the forum.
If you are serious about saving your marriage, you can't get it all on this forum. You've got to listen to the Marriage Builders Radio show, every day. Install the app! Married to my radiant trophy wife, Prisca, 19 years. Father of 8. Attended Marriage Builders weekend in May 2010 If your wife is not on board with MB, some of my posts to other men might help you.
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I was thinking once discussion starts, I'd point anybody who posts on the other threads to the main one. But maybe we can get them merged after the discussion starts.
I wanted there to be an "advertisement" for the club in most of the frequently-travelled parts of the forum. Good idea. The more the better.
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Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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If you are serious about saving your marriage, you can't get it all on this forum. You've got to listen to the Marriage Builders Radio show, every day. Install the app! Married to my radiant trophy wife, Prisca, 19 years. Father of 8. Attended Marriage Builders weekend in May 2010 If your wife is not on board with MB, some of my posts to other men might help you.
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If you are serious about saving your marriage, you can't get it all on this forum. You've got to listen to the Marriage Builders Radio show, every day. Install the app! Married to my radiant trophy wife, Prisca, 19 years. Father of 8. Attended Marriage Builders weekend in May 2010 If your wife is not on board with MB, some of my posts to other men might help you.
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If you are serious about saving your marriage, you can't get it all on this forum. You've got to listen to the Marriage Builders Radio show, every day. Install the app! Married to my radiant trophy wife, Prisca, 19 years. Father of 8. Attended Marriage Builders weekend in May 2010 If your wife is not on board with MB, some of my posts to other men might help you.
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If you are serious about saving your marriage, you can't get it all on this forum. You've got to listen to the Marriage Builders Radio show, every day. Install the app! Married to my radiant trophy wife, Prisca, 19 years. Father of 8. Attended Marriage Builders weekend in May 2010 If your wife is not on board with MB, some of my posts to other men might help you.
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If you are serious about saving your marriage, you can't get it all on this forum. You've got to listen to the Marriage Builders Radio show, every day. Install the app! Married to my radiant trophy wife, Prisca, 19 years. Father of 8. Attended Marriage Builders weekend in May 2010 If your wife is not on board with MB, some of my posts to other men might help you.
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