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Re: new here - pregnant and H cheated
sleeplessinnc #2778940 01/27/14 10:48 PM
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Am I totally off base by seeking supervised visitations? He totally thinks I am crazy but I am trying to look out for my children's best interests without appearing like a vengeful lunatic (which I am not).
Re: new here - pregnant and H cheated
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Originally Posted by sleeplessinnc
Am I totally off base by seeking supervised visitations? He totally thinks I am crazy but I am trying to look out for my children's best interests without appearing like a vengeful lunatic (which I am not).

PLease understand that divorce is war and thats the fact.
He's an immoral man.
You should try to protect your children from his corrupt ways
Re: new here - pregnant and H cheated
sleeplessinnc #2778945 01/27/14 11:15 PM
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Originally Posted by sleeplessinnc
I don't know. As I said, I am currently still nursing my baby so that makes it a bit difficult. Also, I am now only allowing him to have supervised visitations at our house. So to go into plan B, would I need to find somebody else to be at the house when he visits. He resists telling me when he is coming due to his busy and unpredictable work schedule...maybe gives me a few hours notice.


You need a routine and a schedule.
The attorney can get supercvised visits, hopefully with a professional supervisor because spouses really cant supervise and be in plan b
Re: new here - pregnant and H cheated
Jedi_Knight #2778949 01/27/14 11:35 PM
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Thanks, Jedi. This helps. He has that narcissist, sex addict, charm and charisma, which includes a special way of making me feel like I have lost my mind for EVER thinking he is immoral.

A schedule would be wonderful. I didn't know professional supervisors exist. Would we have to pay for that?
Re: new here - pregnant and H cheated
sleeplessinnc #2778963 01/28/14 07:58 AM
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Originally Posted by sleeplessinnc
Thanks, Jedi. This helps. He has that narcissist, sex addict, charm and charisma, which includes a special way of making me feel like I have lost my mind for EVER thinking he is immoral.

A schedule would be wonderful. I didn't know professional supervisors exist. Would we have to pay for that?

The attorney should be able to answer that question.
Someone pays for the service, usually the visiting parent.
For example, my ex wife has supervised visitation with our kids for the past couple years.
This isnt a friendly separation agreement or friendly divorce.
You can't negotiate with him, you need to let the attorney handle that.


Dr Harley would probably encourage you to enter Plan B.
Can you do that?
Can you find an IM?
Re: new here - pregnant and H cheated
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In the meantime, try to obtain as much evidence of his immoral living as possible and keep it in a safe place
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