I think that I've gotten almost all of them under control. I say almost because I can't really get her to talk to me and tell me of anything that is a lovebuster beyond the overall ones listed in the books.

I have made sure to not have any AOs and DJs. I stopped doing selfish demands before she even went to India. I didn't like myself in that regard so I stopped it.

My attempts to have conversations about things rather than arguments has had interesting results in her. Most of the time we are just fine. Sometimes she finds it annoying if I frame something in a "how would you feel if" or other kind of ways or "this makes me feel like" rather than do a lovebuster. She'll even call it annoying because she doesn't understand what I'm doing and it seems odd to her.

If we do have a discussion where we disagree and don't come to a quick resolution she doesn't call them a fight anymore. She doesn't call it arguing. Recently she was talking about an issue and said "well, what should we do about this argument..." Then after a pause said: "Well, I guess we aren't really arguing so what should we do about your complaint."

I'm seeing a lot of improvement. Her work schedule is picking up because of the fall tax season though. I've felt a little of a disconnect because it has interfered with the previous UA level. My "complaint" from above was when I started to ask about her extra work at home and negotiate a time to spend together or a more firm schedule. I've been very flexible so we've been trying to work it out.

I think she's feeling the disconnect a little from the UA drop too. I get the feeling she does from observing her too, but no idea. Things are still improving even with some set backs. If she's going to continue to be a CPA we will eventually have to tackle her busy season schedules and how these affect things.

Hey amI. Any update?

Any update?