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Hello everyone,
I have a question but before I start please know that I already understand this could or probably is bunch of BS. I'm just curious how to look at his scenario.

Several years ago, HB had a relationship with "kind of" co-worker and the story goes like this.

Met at workedH worked full time and she was a weekend reservist that came in occassionally ( was trying to get on active duty ) during the week? She had been divorced for 1.5 yrs. She started pursuing him with a little flirting ( which he didn't object to )that escalated over 4 months.

She was going away for 5 month training and asked him to care for her dogs one weekend while she was away. That her neighbors who always took care of them were going away for the weekend. He went over on lunch hour. Met dogs, instructions, etc.
There 15-20 minutes. Nothing happened.

She comes back and stops in his office. Need help with chemicals on pool. (Yeah....right)
Was working in yard in short skirt, nothing on underneath pulling weeds. ( the flirting wAs mainly about fantacies an MB. So he ends up MB in front of her.

He goes to camp afterward and comes back 6 months later. She comes in, needs help with pool again. Can he come by on lunch hour and look at it. He goes over. They end up MB together outside.

Either she'd be gone or he would ( he says never planned, never talked, no communication. Then one year later they were both in town at same time and happened again on lunch hour. MB outside and role playing.

She went away again, came back 2 months later and again. Only went all the way. Last time. She got on full time and moved out of state right after. Swears no feelings on either side. Was just a fun and exciting thing. Both knew they were going to pcs to different states. The opportunity presented itself.

So...2 times one year....( Mar. and April ) 2 times the next year. ( Mar. And July. )

Say this WERE true. What would you call it?

1) PA affair
2). Fling
3). F*^�k B;&&y's
4) casual sex
5) Friends with benifits
6). Or what?????


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This is your husband you're talking about, correct?

It's definitely a PA. Does it matter what the title is? Have either of you been tested for STD/I?

Are you working on recovery? Have you exposed? Are you still apart due to the military?



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Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.



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Ps...little conversation....no hugging, kissing, oral....just more for stimulation for each.

Always on his lunch hour and at her house.

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Originally Posted by BrainHurts
This is your husband you're talking about, correct?

It's definitely a PA. Does it matter what the title is? Have either of you been tested for STD/I?

Are you working on recovery? Have you exposed? Are you still apart due to the military?
Did you see this?


FWW/BW (me)
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2nd M for both
Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.



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Originally Posted by Reallyhurt
Ps...little conversation....no hugging, kissing, oral....just more for stimulation for each.

Always on his lunch hour and at her house.
Have you asked your husband if he would be willing to take a polygraph to confirm this? His story is weak. He is more than likely up to his eyeballs in an affair. And I'm sorry, but if they've 'had lunch' at her house, they've also had sex at her house.


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