Yes, my DH say's he's happy with my PA.

According to DH, he has implemented EPs/boundaries at his practice, but I'm not 100% sure they are being followed due to lies in the past.

Yes, he is meeting my ENs.

Yes, our UA time needs some help.

I don't know what he can do to make me feel more safe when he's at work, we can't come up with anything. No I don't drop in unexpectedly to his office.

Ok so let's work on your UA time. When you sit down to make out your schedule get creative.

When we go to Vegas we love to take little road trips to just drive and talk. Would you enjoy this?

Can you drop in at his office unannounced with lunch and surprise him?

Yes! I love road trips and having conversations in the car. I could drop in at his office and bring lunch if he hasn't already eaten it. He brings his lunch daily and will sometimes eat in between seeing patients. I guess I could bring dessert. =)

Now you're getting it.

We're you able to do this today?

No I wasn't able to do this today (meaning yesterday) my car was and still is in the shop and I have no vehicle. I will deff. do this Monday or Tuesday (depending when I get my car back). Thank you!! =)

Ok good.

So how much UA time is scheduled this weekend?

I've been meaning to ask. How long were both of you D before you started dating each other?

Have you read Dr. H's material on blended families?

Where are the exes? There in Vegas? How is that whole spectrum?

We are looking at 6hrs of UA for this weekend. My 2 boys are on vac. with their dad until tomorrow. My H is working half day today, and he will be off tomorrow.

We were both divorced for a few mos before we started dating, I used to work at the same office as my H that's how we met.

Yes! I have read Dr. Harley's material on blended family's. We have read His Needs Her Needs for parents.

My ex lives in Vegas, and only see's the boys 4 days (every other weekend) out of the month. He really doesn't want to have anything to do with the boys anyways. After my boys were born I found out my ex never wanted kids. He pays his child support and assumes that's enough. My ex and I talk when we have to inregards of the children and that's it. My ex was very abusive to me (phychologically & physically) the less I have to talk to him the better. My 13 yr old has Aspergers (a form of Autism but he's high functioning).

My H story with his ex is a LONG story. Long story short, my H has a son that is severely autistic (the little boy is a mute) he functions at a 2yrs olds level.
My H has been in & out of court since we've been married (5yrs) on a yearly bases for more child support due to the autistic child. My H no longer sees his kids (it's been 5yrs) because his ex threatened to file false allegations on my H so he could lose his medical license if he didn't do what she said. She was trying to use it as a form of control and manipulation. After listening to MB radio my husband is glad he cut all ties because our marriage wouldn't of lasted. His ex moved to MA last year, she placed their son in a residential school (he lives there) for children that have severe disabilities.
My H and I have been through HELL for the last 5yrs; being in & out of court, paying over 3K in child support per mo, attorney fees, H losing his job, having to file for bankruptcy because after child support went out it was either pay for bills, or pay for food. This year has been better for us, we are on the road to recovery for a lot of areas in our life. It feels like a fresh start for us. The child support went down drastically now because the child was placed in a residential facility. My H found another job elsewhere, the pay isn't as great but it pays the bills.

So that's our story in a nutshell.