Hi guys. I believe my H has been dealing with mild to moderate depression for a couple of years. He has admitted to having anxiety.
I plan to discuss this with him soon, and request he make an appointment to talk to his Dr. I know many of the AD's cause sexual problems. He would NEVER agree to anything like that!
IF I can talk him into considering AD's it's most likely going to be a one shot deal only....in other words if he has a bad experience, he will throw in the towel! I don't mean this as a DJ....I know he is very resistant to "needing" any type of "psyche" meds. He just doesn't really believe in it, if that makes any sense.
Any ideas for the best and most positive way for me to approach? I know Welbutrin (SP?) is said not to impact sexual performance....wondering if anyone has used this and thoughts?
My H used Wellbutrin for a couple of years, a few years ago, while dealing with a very high-stress work situation. It was simply awful living with him while he was depressed. His depression came out as angry outbursts constantly. Everyone at his work place thought he was a jerk. After a couple of weeks on Wellbutrin, his mood improved and NO sexual side effects. Now that his situation is much much better at work, he hasn't been on meds in about three years and is doing great.
He was on Zoloft many years before, another situational depression, and that caused major sexual problems for him, almost complete impotence.
He was not going to see a doctor either, but we met up with a couple of our friends, one of whom is a psychologist. Her H had once had a problem with AOs. They were able to help me persuade my H to see a doctor, that he didn't have to live this way. Once he felt better, he was glad he got help.
Depression is very treatable; it would be a shame to live in a cloud of sadness and hopelessness when it can be lifted through the judicious use of medication. And it doesn't have to be forever.
My H also was very resistant to the idea of meds. He doesn't even like to take anything for a headache. It was very disturbing for him when he thought of needing a psychiatrist, as though he was "bonkers" or something. He hated the idea, yet to keep his family, he did it.
