This is a REAL post I pulled of TOW forum ( <A HREF="http://www.gloryb.com/board/index.html" TARGET=_blank>http://www.gloryb.com/board/index.html</A> ). Check it out for yourself, it really is unbelievable... Shows you what the OW is really like - I feel sorry for the adulterers, because they obviously really take a step down when they leave!!! <P>* * * * * * * * * *<P>For "A Wife" just so you understand that I do care<P>Posted by Brianna on November 5, 1999 at 14:20:20 <P>Look,<BR>I do care about my H's exW and kids. We moved out to NV, so he could find a better job, well, he didn't get that job and until he did, I worked as a legal prostitute to support us and send the exW $2000 a month.<P>No, he didn't ask me to do this, in fact, he begged me not to, but someone had to take care of everything and everyone until he landed the job.<P>I don't know many women who would do what I did. I hated every second of it, but you do what you have to in order to make sure evryone survives....Just my story<P>* * * * * * * * * *<P>Really shows you how screwed up the OW are to go after a MM in the first place, and the personality and class that they possess! <P>------------------<BR>~~ Elixir ~~<BR><p>[This message has been edited by Elixir (edited November 05, 1999).]

I'm never EVER going near that site!<P>There's C-C-RA-Z-Y people over there! <P>------------------<BR>~Sheryl<P>Marriage: the most important contract you'll ever enter into, and the most sacred.<P><BR>

it is a huge swamp of JUSTIFICATION over there. it is truly amazing, and would be funny, if most of us were not on "the other side".<BR>sad.<BR>

My H's OW does it for free. Gee if she got paid for it. They wouldn't be living in a dump. I went to the website last night didn't stay very long. How can there be people like that. I know there are some betrayers on the board, but they are nothing like those on that web site. You know I couldn't tell who is the bretrayer and who is the betrayed unless they say so. I know that a lot of times good people get pulled into having an affair. But most of the betrayers are not nice people all you have to do is look at their background. Their way of dealing with people and with the constant playing around and their lack of respect for everything and everybody. Guess I better quit before I upset someone which is not my intention. <P>------------------<BR>di<P>

I know it must make you feel better to think that all OW are prostitutes, etc. but it is not true. Many times they are just regular women who made a very bad choice just like your husband made a very bad choice and got in over their head. So if it makes you feel better to think you are so much better than the OW and your H go ahead, but I don't think it will help your marriage much.<P>Del

Ouch. Ya know, I read that OW post and it just makes me feel very deeply sorry for that woman.<P>--andy

Well feel deeply sorry for the man who is with her too, unless he is a predator. There are predator OW and there are predator MM too. Some here should face up to that. No one ever wants to think they are married to one. It's always the OP who is the devil.<P>Del

People are people...betrayers or betrayed. <P>The woman who posted on the gloryb board obviously has some other problems besides being in the unfortunate situation of being caught in an affair.

Delphi, that is what I was saying that the betrayers I know on this board are not like that. They care and regret what they have done and want to rebuild their marriages. H's OW doesn't care she I think she is a sex addict the way H talked about her before I knew about the affair. He told me more then I ever wanted to know about this person. He even told me who she had sex with. It wasn't even affairs She worked at a quick store with a motel next door and when some guys would came in the would go next door and have a quickie. So my thoughts about her are based on facts not what I want to think about because of what she did. She has no respect for anyone including herself. I didn't want to upset anyone, but the post I read on the ow board reminded me of her and her lack of respect those women have no respect for themselves. Sorry Again if I upset you didn't mean to.<P>------------------<BR>di<P>

I'll tell y'all what . . .<P>I <B>know</B> not all OW's (or OM's) are THAT bad. Keep in mind that those of us whose spouses had affairs with other married persons ARE the OW or OM to the other person's spouse. (Did that make sense? )<P>My wife is the OW to D*ckhead's wife, and I <I>know</I> my W is no slut. She made a bad choice -- pure and simple.<P>It is amazing, however, what some betrayers will cheat with. Guess that woman in Nevada never heard of getting a regular job. Guess the allure of big bucks was too much.<P>------------------<BR>/// Lone Star * ///<P>

I used to post to that board. I actually went back there last week and did an update of what destruction these affairs bring. I got very little replies. I can tell you that those women are hurting too. At least most of them. It's a sad, sad situation for everyone involved. If they show no remorse then it's even sadder.

You know you are right my H is the OM, but the way I hear it her H is an OM too. What a group of people my H fell into. I guess we can say it is all insanity. But you know Not all people are like this. H's OW whole life is a screwed up mess, and I guess I should feel sorry for her, but I know too many people who had the same problems she had and they improved themselves not wallowed in it. I think she plays the victim quite well. And I know she went after him. He wrote down to much in his journal that I have. So I know she plays the victim so she can have control. Poor little me I have been so mistreated. But she goes after men big time. She has done it tooo many times.<P>------------------<BR>di<P>

hmmmm.... does that mean that the sweet gal I'm married to... the oh-so-considerate one who I just adore.. the one who can share so much with me (not to mention give of herself to folks on the Forum)...she's a whore?<P>Nahhhh. LOL.<P>Joking-but-serious here folks...of course there are some bad people out there. I guess I just believe that most of us are basically good people who've made a few mistakes, don't know what to do, and things spiral from there.<P>But, the spiral CAN be broken. My wife's the best example I could possibly know of an OW. Whaddya think?<P>Oh, and btw...I've known an OW...ummmm...I had one. Not proud of it, but hope I'm smart enuf to admit I did terrible wrong.<P>FWIW.

Any woman who works as a prostitute is a very sad and damaged woman with no self esteem. I feel sorry for that woman, too. People do always say that the OP knew the person was married and they almost always did. But, do you know what? The cheater knew they were married, too! I think there are bad people of all stripes out there, some of them are married and some of them are not. And then there are just regular people who do really stupid and bad things sometimes. They are not bad people to the core, they just did a stupid, bad thing.<P>Del<P>ps: AnnR, you should keep posting there. I think there are some there who would like your input. I don't post there, but I read there.