No joint bank accounts.
No other funds.
Have not filed for child support. He is giving me money as he is earning it. After Plan B, I will see if he changes his mind, then I will file it.

That's a legal question that should be answered by an attorney.

Most attorneys offer a free initial consultation.

Hey JK, when will we get the ball rolling on the IM?

As soon as the mod contacts me.

Great. I'll be checking in. I am putting the last pieces together for Plan B. I am so nauseous I could not even keep my breakfast down.

I have my Plan B letter. I will email a copy of it to OW.

I actually made the me considering reconciliation part very short, because I do not expect him to even do the 3 things. Change his number, end all contact with OW, and agree to marriage recovery program of my choice.
Of course if he were to tell you he is willing, I would ask you to give him the rest of my list, to see if he really is even ready. Plus knowing him, he might just throw it all in the trash.

I also have the NC details letter. I already made a separate account, I am just waiting to give you the info so that you can change the password etc.

I am cancelling my phone tonight, I have already filtered out his email, I will remove him from FB, IG and Twitter tonight. I was wondering if, once we have set you up as IM, you could let him know he needs to change his password for the cell account, email account, and youtube? I don't want to talk or text him after meeting with him today..

I am sorry. I am not permitted to be your IM, with good reasoning. MB has a policy of not exchanging emails between opposite sex, even in cases of IM.

Hopefully a female member of MB will be able to perform this role for you

I would suggest you don't send a copy of your Plan B letter to OW. She doesn't need to know any of your business and she could spin it nine ways to Sunday.

In Surviving An Affair Dr Harley advised Jon to send a copy of the Plan B letter to Sues affair partner.
Also send a copy to close family so they know the door is open

I would be willing to be your IM if you still need one. Contact the mods for my email address.

So do I send a copy to OW?

Vis yes I notified the mods.

I would email dr H about sending plan b letter to OW. I would think its not a good idea or necessary at all

Oh, okay. Thank you for pointing that out to me. I still feel it wouldn't hurt to ask Dr. Harley about this case.

I emailed you back. You are in my prayers tonight.

I am officially in Plan B. I saw my WH at our favorite restaurant. I even let him kiss me very passionately. He asked if we could go back to my place, I said no I had to meet my mom. He said he was very "horny" and had been for awhile. What a load a crap! I wanted to ask him how his sexting went last night!!!!!!!

MIL will let me know what is going on later.

Pray for me guys...

Oh yeah, I have temporarily postponed the letter to OW.

You really shouldn't do that. Jedi is right - Dr Harley positively recommends sending it to her as well. You need to send that letter.

Dr H says that you must add a paragraph just for her at the end. Do not send the letter until I have checked my book and copied it out for you.

If you are officially in Plan B, when did you give the letter to your H? At the restaurant?

No MIL has it and she is giving it to him at this moment probably.

And I will send the letter to her right now

P78 of the new edition of SaA:

"This letter should be delivered by your friends to the unfaithful spouse, and a copy sent to the lover with a note at the bottom saying:

I love __________with all my heart and I am willing to do whatever it takes to make (him/her) happy. I will wait for that chance."

Good.

Do you have OW's home address?