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Is it cheating ? #2748606 08/11/13 06:52 PM
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OP wify Junior Member W Joined: Aug 2013 Posts: 4	My husband has been acting very strange for awhile, so I decided to start checking his phone and internet history ect, I ended up finding out that he has been visiting a dating site * EDIT* I got a good friend of mine who works in IT to look into it and told me that he has been visiting the site quite often for months, should I concerned ? is he cheating ? or confront him ? I'm confused, I don't want to lose my family of 3....help please, thanks Last edited by Ariel; 08/14/13 07:34 PM. Reason: TOS

Re: Is it cheating ? wify #2748608 08/11/13 08:00 PM
Joined: Dec 2010 Posts: 1,956 Likes: 1 USA L LongWayFromHome Member
LongWayFromHome Member L Joined: Dec 2010 Posts: 1,956 Likes: 1 USA	Originally Posted by wify My husband has been acting very strange for awhile, so I decided to start checking his phone and internet history ect, I ended up finding out that he has been visiting a dating site called < EDIT > I got a good friend of mine who works in IT to look into it and told me that he has been visiting the site quite often for months, should I concerned ? is he cheating ? or confront him ? I'm confused, I don't want to lose my family of 3....help please, thanks Yes, you should be concerned. What your husband is doing is dangerous to your marriage. Install a keylogger on the computer and snoop quietly to find out what's going on. Make sure you get the evidence and keep it in a safe place. Maybe your IT friend can help you. Don't confront at this point. He'll just go deeper underground. Can you find out if he's actually met up with anyone? Can you hire a PI? While you're snooping, be on your best behavior. Look good, smell good, avoid all LBs. Sorry you're here. Married 1980 DDay Nov 2010 Recovered thanks to Marriage Builders

Re: Is it cheating ? LongWayFromHome #2748609 08/11/13 08:02 PM
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LongWayFromHome Member L Joined: Dec 2010 Posts: 1,956 Likes: 1 USA	Have you read all these links? Start Here Married 1980 DDay Nov 2010 Recovered thanks to Marriage Builders

Re: Is it cheating ? LongWayFromHome #2748610 08/11/13 08:06 PM
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OP wify Junior Member W Joined: Aug 2013 Posts: 4	if I contact the site would they give me his username or profile ?

Re: Is it cheating ? wify #2748614 08/11/13 08:24 PM
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NeverGuessed Member N Joined: Mar 2010 Posts: 6,352 New York	if I contact the site would they give me his username or profile ? Almost assuredly not! How long would their "business" exist if they gave the potential betrayed spouses a litany of the transgressions the wayward spouses have considered/committed? The way to get that info is from your end - through the use of key-logging software on his computer.

Re: Is it cheating ? wify #2748629 08/11/13 09:31 PM
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BrainHurts Member B Joined: Nov 2010 Posts: 20,435 Likes: 4 Moved to Uranus	Originally Posted by wify if I contact the site would they give me his username or profile ? Welcome to MB and sorry for your pain. Put a Keylogger on hi computer and spyware on his phone. Also put a GPS Unit on his vehicle. FWW/BW (me) WH 2nd M for both Blended Family with 7 kids between us Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.

Re: Is it cheating ? BrainHurts #2748874 08/12/13 08:27 PM
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OP wify Junior Member W Joined: Aug 2013 Posts: 4	ok will do

Re: Is it cheating ? wify #2748877 08/12/13 08:41 PM
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Jedi_Knight Member J Joined: Nov 2011 Posts: 11,239 Another universe	In the meantime do not tell Him about this website and do not confront Him yet

Re: Is it cheating ? Jedi_Knight #2748891 08/12/13 09:09 PM
Joined: Oct 2009 Posts: 1,722 _ _SOL Member
_SOL Member _ Joined: Oct 2009 Posts: 1,722	Sorry you are here. You need to arm yourself with some information first in order to know what you are dealing with. In my opinion, visiting those sites is very dangerous to your marriage and a violation of trust. Don't feel bad about doing what you have to do to find out the truth. Do not confront yet, just snoop and get the info you need to make decisions about what to do next. Sorry you are here and have to deal with this but you've come to the right place. -SOL

Re: Is it cheating ? _SOL #2749290 08/14/13 07:28 PM
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OP wify Junior Member W Joined: Aug 2013 Posts: 4	where can i get a gps ?

Re: Is it cheating ? wify #2749317 08/14/13 10:14 PM
Joined: Nov 2010 Posts: 20,435 Likes: 4 Moved to Uranus B BrainHurts Member
BrainHurts Member B Joined: Nov 2010 Posts: 20,435 Likes: 4 Moved to Uranus	Originally Posted by wify where can i get a gps ? Radio shack or best buy. Did you look online? FWW/BW (me) WH 2nd M for both Blended Family with 7 kids between us Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.

Re: Is it cheating ? BrainHurts #2749318 08/14/13 10:24 PM
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Chitenator Member C Joined: Mar 2013 Posts: 249	Ebay!!!. Married for 3 years And going through a seperation. me bh 33 her ww 34 2 kids her dd 14 my ds 8

Re: Is it cheating ? Chitenator #2749320 08/14/13 10:49 PM
Joined: Nov 2010 Posts: 20,435 Likes: 4 Moved to Uranus B BrainHurts Member
BrainHurts Member B Joined: Nov 2010 Posts: 20,435 Likes: 4 Moved to Uranus	Originally Posted by Chitenator Ebay!!!. Exactly. FWW/BW (me) WH 2nd M for both Blended Family with 7 kids between us Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.

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