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My husband has been acting very strange for awhile, so I decided to start checking his phone and internet history ect, I ended up finding out that he has been visiting a dating site *** EDIT*** I got a good friend of mine who works in IT to look into it and told me that he has been visiting the site quite often for months, should I concerned ? is he cheating ? or confront him ? I'm confused, I don't want to lose my family of 3....help please, thanks
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My husband has been acting very strange for awhile, so I decided to start checking his phone and internet history ect, I ended up finding out that he has been visiting a dating site called < EDIT > I got a good friend of mine who works in IT to look into it and told me that he has been visiting the site quite often for months, should I concerned ? is he cheating ? or confront him ? I'm confused, I don't want to lose my family of 3....help please, thanks Yes, you should be concerned. What your husband is doing is dangerous to your marriage. Install a keylogger on the computer and snoop quietly to find out what's going on. Make sure you get the evidence and keep it in a safe place. Maybe your IT friend can help you. Don't confront at this point. He'll just go deeper underground. Can you find out if he's actually met up with anyone? Can you hire a PI? While you're snooping, be on your best behavior. Look good, smell good, avoid all LBs. Sorry you're here.
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if I contact the site would they give me his username or profile ?
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if I contact the site would they give me his username or profile ?
Almost assuredly not! How long would their "business" exist if they gave the potential betrayed spouses a litany of the transgressions the wayward spouses have considered/committed?
The way to get that info is from your end - through the use of key-logging software on his computer.
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if I contact the site would they give me his username or profile ? Welcome to MB and sorry for your pain. Put a Keylogger on hi computer and spyware on his phone. Also put a GPS Unit on his vehicle.
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In the meantime do not tell Him about this website and do not confront
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Sorry you are here. You need to arm yourself with some information first in order to know what you are dealing with.
In my opinion, visiting those sites is very dangerous to your marriage and a violation of trust. Don't feel bad about doing what you have to do to find out the truth. Do not confront yet, just snoop and get the info you need to make decisions about what to do next.
Sorry you are here and have to deal with this but you've come to the right place.
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Radio shack or best buy. Did you look online?
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