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RNR - Please listen to the third segment of today's radio program. Dr. Harley had a number of general comments about the rights of BSs and JC that you really should hear. mrE- was that today's program or rebroadcast from yesterday's?
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RNR - Please listen to the third segment of today's radio program. Dr. Harley had a number of general comments about the rights of BSs and JC that you really should hear. mrE- was that today's program or rebroadcast from yesterday's? The one that was live at 12:00 CDT today, and will now be rebroadcast until tomorrow.
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Don't get me wrong, I am committed to recovery, my staying is proof of this. I am also committed to MB principles but when my intentions are doubted that poses a problem for me. I want nothing more in this world than to save this marriage and make it great but I'm exhausted. I am not seeing anything tangible yet, I will say I do find myself seeming to be more trusting in my wife over the last few weeks. As for the anger management courses I don't know what to tell you other than there must be a lot of angry people in Alberta because every place I call is booked right into three months from now. I looked at some online courses but there are no more credit cards and I would prefer to be in a class setting when doing something like that. What work have you done with Dr. Harley's anger management material?
If you are serious about saving your marriage, you can't get it all on this forum. You've got to listen to the Marriage Builders Radio show, every day. Install the app! Married to my radiant trophy wife, Prisca, 19 years. Father of 8. Attended Marriage Builders weekend in May 2010 If your wife is not on board with MB, some of my posts to other men might help you.
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so my only job now is for me to allow her to show me this is not all smoke and mirrors and to help build the marriage again. I'm sorry, that's simply not how it works. If you start recovery with the mindset that most of the work is your wife's, you might as well end your marriage, because it is not going to work that way. Both of you need to fix whichever problems you yourself are the cause of. You both need to do a lot of work to learn to eliminate love busters and learn to negotiate or your marriage is going to fail.
If you are serious about saving your marriage, you can't get it all on this forum. You've got to listen to the Marriage Builders Radio show, every day. Install the app! Married to my radiant trophy wife, Prisca, 19 years. Father of 8. Attended Marriage Builders weekend in May 2010 If your wife is not on board with MB, some of my posts to other men might help you.
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I have nothing to prove, how about we take that route here instead of me being painted as the person who put me in this place?
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People need to get of this holier than thou attitude against me and understand that I never left, I was the one who stayed therefore I have already proven willingness to stay in this marriage You do need to prove that you are willing to do what it takes to win your wife and build a good marriage with her. The fact that you stayed is NOT proof of that. You have done plenty to contribute to the state of your marriage, and you are going to have to actively prove that you are willing to change, that you are willing to protect her, and that you are willing to care for her. I am also committed to MB principles but when my intentions are doubted that poses a problem for me
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I am not seeing anything tangible yet You have trouble with your intentions being doubted, and yet you go on to doubt the intentions of your wife ... Why not stop the judging of intentions and start following the program? Assume good faith on the part of your wife, and work together (that means doing YOUR part) instead of sitting in judgement of your wife.
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RNR,
Did you see markos and Prisca's posts to you?
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How are things going? Is your recovery progressing after your move?
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Things are going pretty good. My wife sometimes seems off and that makes me wonder every now and then. I'm still working through a lot in my head but other then that things are good with me. I feel much better since I came home and I have come to realize that money is great but there are better things in life.
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Things are going pretty good. My wife sometimes seems off and that makes me wonder every now and then. I'm still working through a lot in my head but other then that things are good with me. I feel much better since I came home and I have come to realize that money is great but there are better things in life. yippee!!
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Great to hear  How's the anger management going?
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RNR - Please listen to the third segment of today's radio program. Dr. Harley had a number of general comments about the rights of BSs and JC that you really should hear. mrE- was that today's program or rebroadcast from yesterday's? Here's the clip. Radio Clip on Just Compensation
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Has anyone told you how awesome you are, brainy girl?
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Has anyone told you how awesome you are, brainy girl? Awww, thanks 
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Has anyone told you how awesome you are, brainy girl? I second that - thanks for all your help Brain!!
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Has anyone told you how awesome you are, brainy girl? I second that - thanks for all your help Brain!! You're welcome, friend.
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