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Thanks for listening. .........I have stuck through so much with my husband affair after affair. .......my husband has an problem with meeting women via Internet and his cell phone is what he using to contact these women....we have not been intimate for 7 months and he hides his phone. Not sure if I can survive another affair!

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Originally Posted by Praying4mymarria
Thanks for listening. .........I have stuck through so much with my husband affair after affair. .......my husband has an problem with meeting women via Internet and his cell phone is what he using to contact these women....we have not been intimate for 7 months and he hides his phone. Not sure if I can survive another affair!
Welcome to MB.

What snooping techniques do you have in place?


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Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.



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I don't have anything. .......he has changed all of his passwords and keeps his phone stuck to his side

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Originally Posted by Praying4mymarria
I don't have anything. .......he has changed all of his passwords and keeps his phone stuck to his side
Can you wait until he's asleep and put spyware on his phone?

VAR in his vehicle?

Can you afford a PI?


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Can't afford a pi right.......how do I put spy ware on his phone

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Originally Posted by Praying4mymarria
Can't afford a pi right.......how do I put spy ware on his phone
What kind of phone does he have?

Can you access online phone records?

What about a VAR in his vehicle?


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He has a galaxy 4

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I tried to access online records and it looked me out when requested a new password

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Originally Posted by Praying4mymarria
He has a galaxy 4
What about a Voice Activated Recorder

Look at this.
mobistealth


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Originally Posted by Praying4mymarria
I tried to access online records and it looked me out when requested a new password
Are you listed on the account?
Can you call your online services to request the password?


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I am listed on the account. ...I have to wait 24 hours to reset it....I haven't tried a VAR.....where do I get it and is it expensive

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Originally Posted by Praying4mymarria
I am listed on the account. ...I have to wait 24 hours to reset it....I haven't tried a VAR.....where do I get it and is it expensive
You can get them at Radio shack or Google them or try Amazon.

Can you call the online provider and ask for them to reset your password?

Can you put GPS on his vehicle?

When you find evidence do not confront your husband. Come here to the board and tell us.

Does he have any unexplained time?

Does he talk about any female coworkers? Are there any females that he spends alot of time with?


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Originally Posted by Praying4mymarria
Thanks for listening. .........I have stuck through so much with my husband affair after affair. .......my husband has an problem with meeting women via Internet and his cell phone is what he using to contact these women....we have not been intimate for 7 months and he hides his phone. Not sure if I can survive another affair!
Praying, what have you done to save your marriage?


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Originally Posted by Praying4mymarria
Thanks for listening. .........I have stuck through so much with my husband affair after affair. ...
Why? Why didn't you draw the line after the first time, re: what you wouldn't tolerate? You see what my wife told me after my first affair? (Below, 2nd quote in red text.) It was also my only & last affair.
Originally Posted by Praying4mymarria
...Not sure if I can survive another affair!
The point isn't merely to survive, the point is to create a great marriage. However, it's much harder to do that if your husband is convinced you're a doormat who'll put up time & again with the indignity with which he's treating you.


Me: FWH, 50
My BW: Trust_Will_Come, 52, tall, beautiful & heart of gold
DD23, DS19
EA-then-PA Oct'08-Jan'09
Broke it off & confessed to BW (after OW's H found out) Jan.7 2009
Married 25 years & counting.
Grateful for forgiveness. Working to be a better husband.
"I wear the chain I forged in life... I made it link by link, and yard by yard" ~Jacob Marley's ghost, A Christmas Carol
"Do it again & you're out on your [bum]." ~My BW, Jan.7 2009

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