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I just wonder if you'd like to discuss your recovery with your husband after your affair with his brother and how exposure went down for you. I read about it being a bad experience and we here at MB promote a very wide and complete exposure so it's interesting to read about a bad experience. I can only imagine how an intra-family affair exposure would be difficult...we'd seen a few here over the years that had varying degrees of successful outcomes. Please share your perspective if you have the time and inclination.
Mr. W
FBH(me)-51 FWW-49 (MrsWondering)
DD19 DS 22 Dday-2005-Recovered
"agree to disagree" = Used when one wants to reject the objective reality of the situation and hopefully replace it with their own.
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I would be interested in reading more about this particular issue as it is something my husband are dealing with right now. We have questions like who all from family should be made aware of the situation(most of them are emotionally unstable) and what to do about family gatherings? Any advice would be appreciated!
Thanks!
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I would be interested in reading more about this particular issue as it is something my husband are dealing with right now. We have questions like who all from family should be made aware of the situation(most of them are emotionally unstable) and what to do about family gatherings? Any advice would be appreciated!
Thanks!
Unfailinglove Welcome to MB. Would you like to share your story?
FWW/BW (me)
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2nd M for both
Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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Would I like to share my story? I wish I didn't have a story to share but I do. So for the benefit of others in a seemingly helpless situation and myself Ill lay it out. It all "began" when my husband and I had a miscarriage and the severe depression that followed. I could not get a grip and no one was able to help. One thing came to mind. Numb the pain. My husbands 18 yr old nephew was a big fan of smoking marijuana so I asked for his help. That created a bond between us and he seemed to understand my depression. Soon after he made advances towards me and I took the bait. Once the affair came to light My husband and I decided to confront his nephew with the help of his stepfather. We also decided that his mother did not need to know as well as his grandparents(who think he can walk on water and do no wrong). We told him that when it came to family functions he needed to "have other plans". Make an appearance and scram. The other issue is the fact that we cannot have a conversation with my husbands parents without them telling us all the wonderful things he is up to these days. As you can imagine its like a knife every time. I am perfectly fine with keeping this information to ourselves but I think it might be causing added stress to my husband feeling like he is lying or keeping important information from them. What we don't know is whether they will still accept me or not. My husband has made it clear to me that if they don't want me around that means that they don't want him around either. He is sticking with me whether they support us or not. Yes I have an awesome man! I just don't want him to have to deal with it. I don't want him dealing with any of this crap for that matter. It is very disturbing to me the way I have acted! God is the only reason we have made it to this point. So I guess my question is do we tell or keep it between the 4 of us?
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How old were you when the affair took place? How long did it take place? When did it end?
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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