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Eight years ago I found out my husband was having an affair...in the last few years, it has been off and on again. This is with the same person...I cannot go to HR because he...has a code of conduct and he would be fired and I don't need that. How can I still want to love with this man who has caused me so much pain and grief?
Simple - You enjoy the comfort and security that his "sacred" paycheck brings you.
Hey! You get a paycheck with an engineer's salary and approximately one-half a husband! If that works for you, what need have you for advice from us?
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I do want this affair over for good! Family and friends know because I told them and other people know because they were caught. I cannot go to HR because he is an engineer, she works out in the plant. he has a code of conduct and he would be fired and I don't need that. Thanks. I would give him exactly ONE MONTH to leave the job and if he is not gone, you should expose his affair at the workplace. In the meantime, his affair should be exposed to everyone, including the OW's family. Otherwise, you don't have a marriage. Part of the reason this has gone for so long is because you have covered up for the OW and your husband. You are part of the problem, Ma'am.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Joined: Aug 2013
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I lost my job in March and have been looking since. My marriage is absolutely my first priority but not his. I'm tired, drained, and feel like O have been robbed the last 8 years of my life.
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Joined: Nov 2010
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I do want this affair over for good! Family and friends know because I told them and other people know because they were caught. I cannot go to HR because he is an engineer, she works out in the plant. he has a code of conduct and he would be fired and I don't need that. Thanks. I would give him exactly ONE MONTH to leave the job and if he is not gone, you should expose his affair at the workplace. In the meantime, his affair should be exposed to everyone, including the OW's family. Otherwise, you don't have a marriage. Part of the reason this has gone for so long is because you have covered up for the OW and your husband. You are part of the problem, Ma'am. Did you see this? Are you going to do this?
FWW/BW (me)
WH
2nd M for both
Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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