It's already been filed. We're under temp orders now. We have agreed on medical support and visitation for the kids. Only things left is child support and my retirement funds.

You will be getting full custody?

Did you have it written to where the OM isn't allowed to be around your kids?

CS, she pays you?

I have primary custody and she only sees the kids a few days a week with no overnight visits. She will pay child support, half of medical costs for kids, and half of their insurance cost.

WW moved out of the apt today. She's pretty broken up about the whole thing. I'm going to start going through the SAA book with her soon. She showed it to me today, she actually made some noted in the margins of the first couple chapters. She still needs to do a NC letter, and put some EPs in place. She's not yet sold on whether this can work yet. But i have told her the book and it's companions hold the plan, and that this is the only way it can be successful. I hope to introduce get to the forums at some point. Happy labor day. :-)

I'm happy for you and wish you the best in recovery. Things happen mysteriously don't they? Keep the bar high and post your EPs so the vets can edit them. You might want to go on the show again with your WW.

When is she going to write the NC letter?

He pretty much made NC a given when he threatened us and the children last night. I called the police. She did not enjoy sitting huddled in the hallway in the pitch black clutching our children to her while hubby stood watch over them with a loaded shotgun. It has been an interesting weekend. no worries im still going to have her write a NC letter. She did tell him not to contact again or a restraining order would be filed. Then she blocked his number. I'm happy with that for now. I would really watch drama on TV than have it in my life. I need a vacation. Maybe next payday.

File a restraining order regardless.

File a restraining order.

Protect her. And your family.

You only said she moved "out" but didn't really tell us where she moved "in". I assume with you? Which we would have told you was premature.

She needs to demonstrate some stability.

However, since that is water under the bridge, I suggest you follow the MB recovery plans to a "T" -- no deviation.
Take that phone out of her hands. Not just a blocking.
Cuz he'll just call from a different number...

Yes she lives with me right now. I agree that it was way to soon, but she was homeless and had all of 50 bucks to her name. As much as I know she needs to stand on her own 2 feet I couldn't leave her alone at the time. She was not prepared to face her parents because she has alienated all of her good friends and her family. She thought of going to stay with a friend, but there's no way I want her associating with anyone she's called friend in the last year. For now I have to be a roommate. And quite frankly I've been on suicide watch, not leaving her side since Sunday. She has responded quite favorably to being here with me though. We got her a small spot in the closet, bathroom, and dresser for all her things. I'm going to make some small changes to the space so she will feel more comfortable and she can have her personal time. She will be paying part of the bills and doing some housekeeping to cover rent. She knows that this is still my home until she decides to "come back" and follow all the MB principles. I asked her the other day what she believes, and she said she believes it will work, but she wants to get through her withdrawal first. I'm doing my best to keep from getting used. I don't want this to end up with her walking out on the family again. So much to watch out for here, but she would have ended up in a worse situation than she was in if I hadn't stepped up to show her I'm still her friend and husband.

She's going to file the RO today. NC letter was sent last night. I had her include some info about their financials because there was some dispute about that. Of course he broke it immediately. She has stood firm and openly disclosed it to me this morning. She has now changed her phone number, dropped her FB accounts. But then I had to go to work. She has been keeping in touch with me throughout the day as well. All in all promising.

He broke the RO? How? Did you report it?

no he broke her request for NC. the RO appears to be more difficult to get. she wasn't able to get it. She's been running all over at gov't offices all day. she will do an emergency protective order tomorrow at the police station. that will stand while we figure out the RO legal garbage.

How he do it? Did she tell you? What happened to make her realize her mistake? Did he hit her or something? Did the leak get plugged?

If he was there threatening violence and intimidation with a shotgun, and the local police will not do anything, then get a copy of the police incident report and go to the States Attorneys office and have them follow through with the Restraining Order.

LTL

TD,

He sent her 5 emails from 1030 to 130 asking her to come back, threatening, and asking for this month's rent. She willingly told me about it the morning when she found the emails. We will plug the holes as we find them. She realized he was not what he appeared to be when she moved in. He began to change and didn't meet her needs. She then realized on her own that she actually has needs all on her own. Thankfully he has not physically abused her in any way, yet. This man has it in him. He was escorted home from 2 counties away just over a week ago, because he got in a fight with a female at a party where he was drunk.

LTL,

He didn't have the shotgun, I did in defense of my family. I live in Texas. Believe me when I say I wish this POS had set foot on my property, he would have been properly dealt with.

Don't mess with Texas. Mel will be happy to see this.

She needs a new email address.

And all other contact information needs to be changed.

TD and BH. This is in progress. We're bouncing between the house during the day and my in-laws place right now. DD and WW are bonding/cleaning this morning. I'm going to help her with the email change tonight. Mail forwarding has been done. She is also going to get off the lease today.

Good.

Is she willing to join you in a MB program?