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I hope that you can reach an enthusiatic agreement about moving very soon. This conflicts with Dr Harley's advice. Perhaps you should listen to the show before commenting further.
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I hope that you can reach an enthusiatic agreement about moving very soon. You realize this marriage is all be destroyed, right? Her H isn't using POJA right now because he has basically given up on the M. Feeling a little hopeless and defeated right now. Came home and in our he on top of the letter I wrote BH this morning was a card for a divorce attorney. He is not here, not responding to my text either.
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but at some point in this situation your BH is going to HAVE to AGREE to make this possible. mozilla, just so that you are aware, Dr Harley just advised another poster in a little bit of a different situation, Rocketqueen, to move as well and hope that her H follows her. It was very clear to him in that situation and in this one that the move would be made without POJA.
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I hope that you can reach an enthusiatic agreement about moving very soon. This conflicts with Dr Harley's advice. Perhaps you should listen to the show before commenting further. Yes, please do.
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Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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Ah, I did not realize Dr. Harley advised a WS to separate from the BS via a move without his agreement in order to reconcile after an affair. I admit that my experience with SAA is probably the older book and not the newer one.
That does open up a whole lot more recovery options.
I apologize that my out of date comments were offensive.
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Mozilla, it's all good!!  He has told several folks to do this on his radio show. The reasoning is that there is no hope anyway UNLESS the spouse moves. In this case, they already know that is their only hope so she has nothing to lose and everything to gain.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Thank you for your patience with a newcomer, melody lane. You always have a good balance of honesty, objectivity and kindness. I will catch up on some updated material reading
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I will catch up on some updated material reading Actually it was addressed in the radio show when fifteen's email was read. Did you end up listening? What did you think?
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fifteen, how's it going? Any update?
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fifteen, how's it going? Any update?
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FWW/BW (me)
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Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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Fifteen,
Where are you ? Are you okay ?
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me: FWW/BW
Married 20 years, 4 kids
We made it.
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Fifteen,
Where are you ? Are you okay ?
FF How are you Fifteenyears?
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Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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where is 15 anybody have an idea ?
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