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Yes that's why I read love buster and working on his need her needs and on here WRONG BOOKS. You are in Plan Ah75 and it is not going to get you anywhere. Let us know when you are ready to try something that works.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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No on surviving an affair
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Yes that's why I'm here and reading the books Okay. We do understand that this is a crappy place to be, Ah. People are posting to you like wildfire because they see potential for you to pull this out of the ditch, but you can't bury your head in the sand, okay? You really must snoop. You said the affair was 7 months ago -- Are you telling us that you believe there has been no contact in 7 months? Because if that is what you believe, I must tell you that it's not correct -- she is far too foggy at this point for that to be true. Can you please tell me HOW you KNOW? Mrs. W
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Ok thought they were the right books. Where do I begin?
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No on surviving an affair That one is a MUST, Ah. Get it immediately. Mrs. W
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Ok Om is back w his wife. I was looking through her phone. But have not in a few months. I was on a trip with our son for a few days and she didn't miss me then you know what hit the fan. She takes kids to school. Works all day in the school and evenings home or with me.
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What plan should I be on? Please.
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Ok Om is back w his wife. I was looking through her phone. But have not in a few months. I was on a trip with our son for a few days and she didn't miss me then you know what hit the fan. She takes kids to school. Works all day in the school and evenings home or with me. They could easily still be in contact so I am baffled why you think they are not?
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Ok Om is back w his wife. I was looking through her phone. But have not in a few months. I was on a trip with our son for a few days and she didn't miss me then you know what hit the fan. She takes kids to school. Works all day in the school and evenings home or with me. Ah, When I had my affair I guarantee you that Mr. W knew where I was all the time -- AT HOME. But that did not mean that I didn't have secret email accounts -- or wasn't talking to OM constantly on the phone. Just because you know where she is (and really, without verification you don't actually KNOW) doesn't mean the affair isn't continuing. Just because OM is "back with his wife" doesn't mean he doesn't have secret email accounts or a secret affair phone. Are you willing to snoop, Ah? Mrs. W
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I will do more active investigation.
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Dr. Willard F. Harley, Jr. & Dr. Jennifer Harley Chalmers Mrs. W
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Got to run for now. Thank you all I will check in later.
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I will do more active investigation. Atta boy! What will you do exactly? Keylogger on her computer? Spyware on her phone? GPS on her car? Voice Activated Recorder? Personally, I would recommend all of those. And Ah, snooping in marriage is a GOOD THING. You shouldn't stop just because you believe the affair is over -- or even when you KNOW it's over. Mr. W & I still look at each other's stuff -- I WANT him as my accountability partner and vice versa. It is our job to care for each other in that way. I know that sounds foreign to most people, but it shouldn't be. We are all human and as such don't always make the best choices -- our spouse is the other half of us, and has our best interests at heart. A system of checks and balances is a positive thing. Mrs. W
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Got to run for now. Thank you all I will check in later. Okay. Take care. I look forward to hearing what your plans are. Please do get Surviving An Affair. Mrs. W
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Ok just thought about Face Book!!! She uses it a lot I don't. How can I see her private messaging? Hmmmm???? Who is she talking to?
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keylog her...get her password and access it yourself.
Don't forewarn her that you are even suspicious.
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She may have a NEW OM...maybe a long distance emotional affair over the internet/facebook...which would explain why she wants to be in a separate bedroom...alone...with her phone. 7 months later...it may be a new guy.
Rule this out first because you can't make any progress on your marriage until the affair (or all affairs) are absolutely over.
Also...if you can't move...you'll likely need to double down on your exposure of OM so hopefully HE will move.
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