Unfortunatley our 15 year old son is right in the middle of this. After asking my husband to move out a year ago, we hadn't moved forward to reconcilliation...but I did file in December for divorce because of his spending. <P>After deciding to move on with the divorce because my husband is getting worse and perhaps even more delusional, my son said that he is sure God will heal dad and that I need to be quiet so that dad will come home. He thinks that my anger (which I never displayed until this last month) is keeping dad away. Now I do not talk to Mike...I won't...I finally disconnected with the person he has become. He is cruel to our oldest son and has really cast him aside..and he is the child who ws most like the man my husband use to be...now I am wondering if God is talking to me through John to hold things back for awhile longer...My husband has not moved forward with the divorce because I believe he mentally can't handle it....my husband has been diagnosed with a mental illness...but won't medicate...I cannot and will not go through his break with reality again...it was just too painful for everyone..when I finally came to the realization that I had to take care of me, then all of this is thrown in my face...any suggestions??

I do believe in the power of prayer, and know God can heal your husband completely if he wants to! Maybe join your son in a prayer for Dad's healing. It would certainly help your relationship with your son - and never hurts to pray.<P>Anger is okay but needs to be directed in a positive way. <P>I think if you are protected financially because of the legal paperwork, it is okay to stall the divorce for a while. What is a little while compared to forever - especially if he does get better? <P>I am sure you could find a bi-polar support group for spouses. Spouses of someone bi-polar are under lots and lots of stress. I know an HMO in So California that supports a group like this. I'm sure you could find one on line.<P>This is really a tough one for you and your children. More information, support, and unity in prayer will help you all cope, and may even help him in the long run.<P>God Bless.