I have my full sitch elsewhere but I just realized there is no way I'm going to be able to watch one of my favorite shows, Homeland.

The A wasn't a big deal to me last season, but the last thing I need in my R is to watch a military WW bang POSOM while her husband is away. Granted BH is a piece of work but still.

Anybody else loose a show to the bottomless pit of A triggers?

You might, in time, be able to no longer fall into the bottomless pit of misery following triggers like this.

I've been able to watch Scandal with nothing but contempt for the way it portrays the relationship between Olivia Pope and the President as bearing the only true, genuine love that any of the characters is capable of feeling, and the way it portrays the President's wife as less than loveable. She's not nasty; she's smart and she's devoted to her H, but she's the perfect, brittle, polished, ambitious consort that it is hard to fall in love with. We are meant to see that no man would feel actual passion for her, but we can see that passion between the President and Olivia, and we are being set up to sympathise with it.

I can watch it, and wonder where the scriptwriters are going with this. Are they really endorsing the affair right to the end? Are they ever going to back away from portraying the affair as "meant to be"?

I would think that just hanging around Marriage Builders would make ANYONE less tolerant of a show or movie involving infidelity, at least if the infidelity is presented in any way that validates the wayward mindset.

That's kind of a side effect of transitioning from one culture to another - and really in a way that's what Marriage Builders is all about. There's really two parallel cultures out there - one does not believe in sustainable romantic love for life in marriage, believes in having independent lives in marriage, believes in having friends of the opposite sex outside of marriage. The other one has successful marriages.

Working here is an effort to advance the culture of successful marriages - with all of the great benefits that brings.

My biggest problem was popular music. I has to stop listening to the radio. It wasn't just infidelity that triggered me. For a time, just about any kind of relationship theme was problematic.

I used to love Bridges of Madison County. After my husbands affair the blinders were RIPPED off and I saw it in a new light. Instead of a beautiful, romantic love story, I saw it in a more truthful light: 2 pigs going at it in the pig pen! I was disgusted that she did some grimy creep in her husbands bed and then allowed her children to read all about it after her death. YUCK!

MMM,

We are 5 years plus from discovery of my H's affair. At first, I could only listen to instrumental and/or foreign language music. We limited our TV and movies to those that had no relationship material. We once left a comedy program that dealt heavily with adultery.

Now, these things don't bother us much. If they come on, it's ok, but we don't seek them out. There are some movies I may never watch again, Dr. Zhivago, Bridges of Madison County, Casablanca come to mind. There are probably plenty of others.

AM

So nice to see you back armymama.

Thanks, Brain. I have been reading here some, but just haven't had much inclination to write much.

You've been missed.

I just started watching Homeland recently (purchased Season1 on Apple TV), and hopefully it doesn't end up validating any waywardness, so far it hasn't. It hasn't triggered me.

Actually it's shining a negative light on infidelity. How it just makes a difficult situation much worse, how any contact between the affairees is not good for the M, etc.

Also seems to be drawing parallels between dishonesty in the A for one of the characters and how it relates to dishonesty in other areas of his life.

BTW, I think Claire Danes is a wayward in real life. Ugs.